Misinterpreting people

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I always misinterpret people for being rude or angry at me. Specifically in restaraunts , the waiter/tress, they always look disgusted and it looks like they are mad at me. I assume I am misinterpreting them because friends and parents don't know what i'm talking about. Does anyone else experience this??

I often see people who are mildly frustrated as being angry and yelling of that's what you mean

I interpret people differently than others who I am with, but not in the same way you do. It can feel very isolating and confusing at times.

I would not like to think that many people are angry with me all the time.


My interpretations tend toward always assuming that people have a good reason for doing what they are and I simply don't know all of the facts...and if I did, I would understand. My "downfall" is being overly naive and utterly unstreet-wise. Even though I know this, I still choose to keep on...

I can explain my personal "lenses", though. For most of my childhood, I was interpreted by others as being bad or mean-spirited, when that was almost never the case. I had a lot of difficulty with understanding language and would have unpredictable behavior because of it. Because it was so painful to have been always thought of as having negative intentions, I decided to never make someone else feel that pain, so I assume positive intentions almost always...

Do you know the reason for your pattern?

I misinterpret a lot too so I often have to ask what the person means.

You know what helps? I tried to learn how to pick and choose when I had to form a conclusion and it's been a good way to relieve the stress. Just try interpreting people less and resolve that it isn't that big of a deal anyway, and you won't second guess yourself so much. So someone gave me a confusing look in a grocery store, am I ever going to see that person again? Probably not. So a waitress gave me a funny look, is she even going to remember the thought she just had after a mere thirty seconds (hell, maybe even as little as 5-10)? Once again probably not. But say my sister is acting up and I don't get it? I ask her what's up and try my best to form a conclusion, it's all I can do. Thankful the third scenario happens much less often than the first two.

I always think my boss is upset with me.

I'm more used to negative reinforcement than positive reinforcement.