"You two would make good friends"

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01 Apr 2014, 1:16 am

I don't really understand why people say this. I suspect it's related to them thinking I'm in the same "social group" or "wavelength" as them. They usually say it about me and someone who I don't get along with.

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01 Apr 2014, 1:20 am

They may see things in your personalities or interests that you have in common. That is one reason people would say that.

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01 Apr 2014, 7:09 am

I've said that in a sarcastic context before. And sometimes those people have become good friends with time.

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01 Apr 2014, 7:09 am

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01 Apr 2014, 7:15 am

I agree that the person saying this to you wants you to make friends with that particular person (perhaps without knowledge of the true nature of that person).

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01 Apr 2014, 8:07 am

I think if they know anyone who has anything remotely in common with you, they will say that. I've had my aunts say that to me a lot, usually about other quiet people. However, my aunts don't know me very well and just being quiet doesn't mean anything. I'm yet to become friends with anyone who has ever been introduced to me with the whole good friends speech.

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01 Apr 2014, 8:17 am

Sometimes people are bigoted and stupid. "Oh! This person is also autistic/shy/disabled...You two would make GREAT friends."

Grrrrrrrrr...

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01 Apr 2014, 12:19 pm

Sethno wrote:

Sometimes people are bigoted and stupid. "Oh! This person is also autistic/shy/disabled...You two would make GREAT friends."

Grrrrrrrrr...

I was thinking that as well. I hate when people think that about me. I don't like to be put in the same box as autistic people.

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01 Apr 2014, 2:07 pm

Yeah, had that happen to me once or twice, it's the sort of thing that parents do when they try to force friendships upon you. Hint: life doesn't work like that

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01 Apr 2014, 7:32 pm

DevilKisses wrote:

Sethno wrote:

Sometimes people are bigoted and stupid. "Oh! This person is also autistic/shy/disabled...You two would make GREAT friends."

Grrrrrrrrr...

I was thinking that as well. I hate when people think that about me. I don't like to be put in the same box as autistic people.

Is that a wise thing to say on a site dedicated to autistic people?

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01 Apr 2014, 8:44 pm

Apparently, I would get along great with the majority of people in Portland.

They are oddballs like me.

Then it was elaborated that they may just be themselves. Now that's something I can be happy with.
The person had an ulterior motive for that statement though. She wants me to live over there.

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01 Apr 2014, 8:48 pm

If the person who said it really means it, they are mutual friends (or at least are mutually friendly) with both people they are talking about, and would like a 'the three of us should all hang out' moment.

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01 Apr 2014, 9:20 pm

In some cases, it can also be that the other person perceives some deficit in the number of friendships you have and is suggesting a possible remedy to that deficit. My father, for example, fears that I am lonely at university, so he will sometimes point out any person of my age and gender as someone I "should make friends with."

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01 Apr 2014, 9:25 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:

DevilKisses wrote:

Sethno wrote:

Sometimes people are bigoted and stupid. "Oh! This person is also autistic/shy/disabled...You two would make GREAT friends."

Grrrrrrrrr...

I was thinking that as well. I hate when people think that about me. I don't like to be put in the same box as autistic people.

Is that a wise thing to say on a site dedicated to autistic people?

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