Fanfare for the common aspie

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11 Apr 2014, 11:05 am

I've spent most of my life feeling insecure, insufficient, unlovable, and all these other good things...

I think it's about time we take a break and pat ourselves on the back.

We don't hear enough praise, enough compassion, enough admiration, acceptance, and credit like NT's do. Sure we may hear it from our parent and others who care, but they are just saying that out of love... not out of actual admiration or understanding of our inner struggles.

Many of us will spend years and decades living a quiet life of despair.. staying out of sight and out of mind of those who (unfairly) feel ashamed or dissapointed in us. We stay out of the way of those who are naturally agressive and dominating... we even sometimes stay away from the people we love fearing that we are not good enough for them.

Well, this is coming from an aspie who understands: I admire you (yes, you!)

I admire you for getting up every day and giving it your best shot even though you realize every day is a handicap match with NT's... even though you know you won't get the love, the acceptance, or the credit you deserve on that day.

Some people choose their battles... we don't. We do the best we can with the set of cards we've been dealt.

We often get despondent, depressed, hopeless, and suicidal, but we fight those feelings and we SURVIVE!

We have to work harder than others yet are less successful financialy and socially. We battle more demons than others.. and for that we deserve more credit than others.

NT's will never understand... don't expect them to. But as far as I'm concerned... and the rest of the aspie world is concerned... we speak your name!

Fanfare for the Common Aspie!

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11 Apr 2014, 3:51 pm

:wtg: :alien:

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11 Apr 2014, 4:14 pm

Well said Jacob, that made me feel better about my not-so-great social experiences today.

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11 Apr 2014, 4:32 pm

Hi JacobV,
What you wrote makes a lot of sense to me.
Us 'Aspies' need to "stick together" and "stand up" for eachother.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76RbWuFll0Y[/youtube]

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We, the people on the Autistic Spectrum have a choice.
We can either try to "fit in" with the rest of society, or we can be so egocentric that we can't be bothered.
I choose the actor. I observe NT's. I listen to their socializing. I practice it, so in social situations I can just emulate/mimic what is expected.
It isn't natural for me, but it enables me to "fit in".
It is VERY tiring and draining, but at least we can appear like them even though it is an act. Like being on the stage.
They can't see it is emulation, and so we are accepted.

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11 Apr 2014, 4:33 pm

You're darn Tootin'!

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11 Apr 2014, 4:54 pm

If only Aaron Copland were still around to compose something appropriate.

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11 Apr 2014, 8:19 pm

Woo-hoo

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11 Apr 2014, 9:02 pm

I really needed to hear (well, read :wink: ) this today--thank you.

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11 Apr 2014, 9:36 pm

Rock on. :thumleft:

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