General common sesne (not just social)

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I have had some problems during my life with "it's a judgement call" questions, one where the answer isn't obvious or an indisputable yes or no, but at the same time, answering a certain way would lead most people to think, "he's not very bright." At my internship, to some extent, I ask a lot of "peter pan syndrome questions", something you would expect a child to ask because and adult would make inferences on the context, and the person who is being asked thinks "use your common sense!" It goes beyond questions, I've had times where I just picked an option and I was terribly wrong in a case where 90% of people would've chosen differently, sometimes in cases where people do think I'm stupid. I have improved on in the area from living throught some pretty bad common sense problems in college (silly partying and slacking off decisions aside), but today, part of me still worries that this will be a lifelong problem, part of me worries this is an individual trait and not a disorder related one, and part of me worries I am so hard wired to ask mommy or daddy that I have some sort of psychosis where my immediate reaction to a problem is learned helplessness; it may be true to some extent, I just haven't heard much about common sense and aspergers unless its related to missing a social queue or being blunt.

The same thing happens to me; you are not alone--trust me!

My wife tells me, all the time to "Use your common sense!! !"

Executive Function impairment. Yes, that's AS related. When you don't see the world the same way others do, what seems "common sense" to them may not be as obvious to you.

But it works both ways - often what seems obvious and simple to me, Neurotypical types seem baffled by, even after I demonstrate it to them. How did they not see that?

Making judgement calls often require thinking through several options. Each option has a series of steps, and each step has a cause and affect. Each step may also have its own options. So yes, I think that's complicated and difficult.

I supplement my lack of ability in this area with slowing down the decision making process when possible, writing down the different paths each step could take, consulting with others.

Yes, in general my common sense and on the spot judgments about those kind of things are terrible, not just social sense.