Answering questions directly and telling stories

Post Reply New Topic

Do any of you guys have problems answering questions directly? Sometimes I think that I have answered a question but my boyfriend tells me I haven't answered it. He gets frustrated. For instance, this morning I was texting him (we are long-distance) about how I lost the screws for my gun holster (I have my concealed carry license). He asked me how I lost the screws. So I told him, "I took off the part that attaches the holster to the belt from the cover for the gun so that I would just have a gun cover since I never wear clothes that let me wear the holster on my belt. That way I could leave it in my purse with the cover on. Since my gun doesn't have a safety, I need to have it covered so the trigger is covered."

Never even mentioned the screws hahaha! But of course when I separated the pieces, that required taking the screws out and I lost them somewhere along the way.

I feel like here I just got caught up in the details of what happened maybe? This seems like a more obvious example. Other times I really feel like I have answered the question well, but I think I am answering from a different perspective than the question was asked in, so it doesn't make sense to the listener. I wish I could think of an example right now. Maybe you guys have some?

As a side note, do any of you suck at verbally telling stories about things that have happened to you? I can type them out just fine and rephrase and stuff, but when it comes to relaying what happened as I am talking, I have trouble remembering and describing what happened and in the order that things happened. This really sucks when I am trying to relay a funny story- because it ends up never being funny due to how I tell it!

Sometimes, I don't answer questions directly because there often is more than one "answer" to any given question. It does frustrate people.

Sometimes, when I'm in a philosophical mood, I tend to make peripheral associations, rather than direct ones. It drives people crazy.

There are times when a direct answer is essential. The key is understanding those times. When a person is injured and the paramedics ask a question, your answer must be direct.

I'm a pretty poor storyteller It's hampered me in my social relations. Storytelling is an essential NT skill. It is a way to illustrate how one identifies with another person, rather than directly say "I identify with you."