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AceofKnaves
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31 May 2014, 2:59 pm

Lately I have been calling a friend either everyday, or every other day and speaking with him for 3hrs or more about my special interest. -.-

How do I stop myself?

Since no one around me, but him wants to talk to me about my special interest.



naturalplastic
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31 May 2014, 3:12 pm

Find a website devoted to that special interest, and just type away about it with other members on the website.

Maybe you could even use the blogging option here, and start blogging about it on WP.

Also if you write, rather than talk, to your friend (either via e-mail, or snail mail) about the interest it would both impede you and shield your friend because you would have to work hard to write about your obsession- and forced be succinct and to say with brevity- and he could read text instead of hearing you yak. Reading would be the lesser of two evils because most folks can read alot faster than most folks can talk.



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31 May 2014, 4:28 pm

Difficult thing to do when you're in that mode.

Maybe try setting some rules for yourself to follow?

i.e. you'll only allow yourself to call him once or twice a week, or set a timer for your calls and limit them to 20 minutes or something like that.

If you leave things wide open with no set parameters to keep yourself within, then chances are you'll continue doing as you're doing.

Same thing with your special interest if it's taking up an unhealthy amount of time. Force yourself to focus on other things, learning other things, doing other things, just to break up the never ending time sucking black hole that a special interest can be.


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AceofKnaves
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31 May 2014, 4:48 pm

Most of the writing websites, do not talk extensively as I do about my stories as if they are alive. And people will not talk about their ideas or plots with me.



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31 May 2014, 9:46 pm

The Squid suggests you try here, you may be surprised at who will respond to your posts.