As an infant, were you suspicious of strangers?

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I was flipping through my baby book the other day. My mom noted that I was ?becoming suspicious of strangers? at age 6 months.

Is this common for people on the spectrum? Simply curious.

I'm not sure if I was suspicious... but my mom always said I avoided people and liked to sit & play in my room alone as a small child. I was never around when people were over.

No it's normal. It's called stranger danger. At a certain age babies start to get anxiety when around unknown people and are left with them. I actually read the opposite about ASDs, they don't get stranger danger and it's actually a red flag when a child doesn't show it. Of course you don;t need to have all the symptoms.

I never noticed it in my son but it was pointed out to me. He would ignore the person until he got comfortable with them and then he would start interacting with them and as an infant and a year old he would get a look on his face. My mom told me I also ignored people too I didn't know.

I asked my mother and she says that I wasn't the most trustful of infants, but that I wasn't that much around strangers anyway, and I was never left with strangers until I started daycare at age 2. Apparently I was fine with the neighbor picking me up, but she was always coming by so I must have been used to her.

Not at all.
Looking at my old photos it seems I didn't give a damn about who was holding me when I was an infant (no matter if it was my mom, an uncle or a total stranger I had the same expression, like - "Just let me go already, I am busy. I want to see what is over there.") and for what I know once I learned to speak (18 months) I was talking to every stranger I seen just as if he was someone I know very well. Looks like I really skipped the "stranger danger" stage.

Actually it was something that made my parents take me to a child psychiatrist when I was 3 and got into the daycare.
The first day. I went straight to the toy-shelf, threw all the toys on floor and started to organize them my way. I was so busy with it I didn't even answer when my mom said "Bye Kate, be a good girl" and left (probably I didn't even realize it). The caregivers were shocked so they forced my parents to check what is wrong with me. Apparently all children cry when their parents leave them there for the first time. But the psychologist said there is "nothing wrong". The AS was unknown back then and I was too smart and too social for classic autism.

There comes a point in ANY baby's life that a baby becomes wary of strangers.

It's not an Autism thing; it's a cognitive thing, even a necessary thing.

They become aware of people as people, rather than as mere amorphous entities. With this enhanced understanding, they also become more aware of familiar people versus strangers.

This seems to occur at about 6 months of age.

I wasn't especially suspicious, but I wouldn't let anyone touch me. According to my parents, even when I was a baby I hated being held. I was fine with strangers until they tried to hug me, or pinch my cheek, or whatever. As soon as they did that, I would run off and hide until they promised not to touch me.

As a baby, I liked being held, I´m told, but I didn´t like peoples eyes. I tried to poke my fingers in their eyes, when they invaded my pivacy, but I was not suspicious.
I too skipped the danger stage and I just went up to anybody and started talking.