Not wanting to engage in friendship

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I am not sure what kind of event occurred on a cosmic level to have this happen, but as a college student (and late in high school) I became inordinately popular. I am not popular in a traditional sense. I am popular because people find my quirks appealing, and maybe my tendency to think deeply, and my boldness (which I can't seem to avoid being blunt). However they seem to overlook the fact that I am often pissy, negative, harsh, mean, etc., due to overwhelm or maybe personality defects.

The people who contact me to hang out are relentless (years of bothering me), and I only reply sparsely. I don't know why they don't get the message that I'm not interested. They look at me like a mythical creatures sometimes, which I can't understand, whereas I find them neutral.

The reason I'm not interested is not very personal to them. It's simply that it takes all of my energy on a good day to not meltdown from the stimulation of going to a big state school, being an overly zealous composition major and pianist, and having my own apartment to take care of. I can't respond to texts from people I find bland/uninteresting/who I suspect of having secret (or not so secret) sexual desires for me (which I am rarely interested in).

How do I get people to stop noticing me to begin with? How do I get people to stop pestering me? Or maybe I am misguided in avoiding human contact to this extent? Does anyone else get positive attention for being unique?

We're all misguided in avoiding human contact for so long - humans tend to misguide humans. I'm in roughly your exact situation, minus some SMS messages because I'm a programmer, not much of a pianist. That said, I would still imagine my vast music collection contributed to slurping me into a social life for which I wasn't prepared; not that I would've survived said social existence without my collection.

Half my friends are ravers, the rest are artists, students, scientists, musicians, or academic polyglots. We're all clingy, usually one of us has tea, herbs or some sort of machinery the next requires. I only get standoffish when people weasel free work from my PCs.

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Are you attractive?

If you're hot, you're almost guaranteed to have an above average unwanted following, and not only from the opposite sex or homosexuals. Humans naturally gravitate towards the more attractive.

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Unapologetically, Norny.
-chronically drunk