When they discover you're different

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I always dread that moment. Especially with people my age. When I'm around non-peers I don't care because they automatically expect me to be different. I always feel very nervous when I'm around people my age. I notice that most people treat me pretty normally, but I always expect that they will eventually discover what a freak I am.

I lived my life in avoidance of people for many many years because I was afraid of being seen as being different.

As I've got older I've had no choice but to face up to the reality of the fact that I am different.

If people notice that I'm different(and no doubt they probably do), what is the worst that can happen?

They might ostracise me, exclude me, or talk about me?

None of these things would really bother me, as I've been my own worst enemy/critic all my life.

You're still young and I reckon you're far braver than I was at your age.

Don't worry so much about what people think.

You are not a freak by the way.

I don't know if they got anything to discover.
They might realize there is something different about me but since I act as if it is normal they don't have much ways to hurt me. Some of them tell me "Don't act this way.", "Why are you doing it?", "Are you ok?" but I just laugh and tell them "It is how I am and I am fine with it. Don't bother yourself.".

I am not sure how they think about me but they seem to accept me as a part of their group. If you like yourself people will like you too, no matter how weird you are as long as you don't intentionally hurt them and you make your efforts to be useful to them.

Same here. Well most people treat me like a normal person but some mock me in a subtle way.

When people notice I'm different they always treat me differently. I guess that makes sense, but I really hate when that happens. Mainly because it makes interactions less fun for me and it makes me pay attention to my differences. I want my friends to make me feel happy and normal.

Generally, I am let down slowly (stop calling/ asking to hang out) til eventually, it's like we never even met. At this point (mid twenties) I know I am different, I have been different my entire life, and no longer require attention/ acceptance from my peers. I am happy to do my own thing and be a loner. I much rather prefer to spend time with my books/ music than attempt to navigate the social world/ complexity of a party.

I do get treated differently but that's not really a negative thing for me. it's more on my terms that I'm treated differently.

Like for instance the people who I work with know by now that I like to spend my breaks in my own company and if I want to join in then I do it on my own terms.

generally people just leave me to my own devices until I come round on my own.

I know that I am accepted and if I want to socialise then I can, but they just know that I'm on another wavelength.

There are some people who are quite attentive towards me as well, and they probably know me more than I think they do.

What you have to realise is, that everyone is different and so everyone will be different towards you.

People who treat you in a negative way because of who you are just aren't worth knowing anyway.

I dread that moment too. And I wouldn't mind so much if people treat me differently, if they actually understand my differences. I feel like I probably need to be treated differently in some ways. The problem is that people don't understand what I need. Even if they recognize that I'm different, they don't really understand how or why.

People think I'm different from the moment they talk to me. I've learned not to give a rat's butt.