Does anyone here get harassed in public?

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Like when you're walking outside and random strangers call you names like creep and ret*d?

I have anxiety problems and this became a issues once my anxiety started to worsen about three years ago.

Where in NYC are you?

I'm shocked this is happening to you.

I'm in Queens.

That used to happen to me when I was in school.

What I would do: just ignore it.

If the people start coming up to you to harass you, call the cops.

yes,happens regulary because am very visibly disabled,'ret*d' is the only term that really hurts deep because am intelectualy disabled and have spent whole life being targeted because of it by strangers as well as the punishing negative attitudes from school and family.

am not sure on where are exactly living but in some countries such as the UK; to use disability slurs on a disabled person is classed as hate speech and is a criminal offense,so perhaps itd be worth googling for local laws on this and reporting those ignorant shts to the local police station the next time it happens.
its important to take issue with disablist abuse otherwise people dont realise how serious it is.

the ignorant ones are probably using pyschological projection;theyre miserable about themselves/their own life/insecurities and think passing on the miserableness will take the pressure off themselves.

I'm in Brooklyn, JHS it was a issue but HS was fine. But in adult life (will be 23 on the 25th) this has been a issue, I do ignore it but its very discouraging.

Buddy, I know how you feel. It can be discouraging.

Have you been able to obtain employment? Do you live on your own?

For some reason, I'm thinking that you're living in Bensonhurst....I don't know why.

I live near Bellerose, in Queens.

As it stands, as long as they're not harassing you up close, all you could do is ignore it.

I live in Caransie, I still live with my parents and I'm unemployed, being visably disabled + having a embassing health condition which other people can notice makes my chances of actually getting a job slim. I'm waiting for my healthcare card to come in the mail so I hopefully can get the latter health problem corrected, I wanted to go on disability but IDK the status of that as my patents handle the affairs for that.

I once knew somebody who lived on 102nd near Seaview. She has since moved to Manhattan.

I know somebody now who lives on 88th Street and Ave K, by the cemetery.

It might take a while for you to get SSI. They'll probably reject you the first time. But you could appeal and/or apply again.

Maybe you could get on something called "vocational rehabilitation."

I'm sorry these people are harassing you. I would carry my phone at all times, in case you have to call the cops (or fake calling the cops).

I guess you like trains, huh LOL

Because you live in New York, knowing about and using some crime-prevention tactics would be a good way to protect yourself even if they aren't threatening, harrassing or assaulting you.

Download and print a map of the streets of your neighborhood and the neighborhoods where you walk. On the map(s), highlight or mark where the nearest police stations, fire stations, hospitals and businesses (especially those with security officers). Study your map and try to memorize where these locations are, and keep the map in your pocket when you are out walking.

When you are harrassed by anyone (especially those who follow you), walk quickly to the nearest location that you know has security officers and tell them that you believe that one or more individuals are harrassing you and, you believe, are violating the city's and state's hate-crime laws. You don't need to call for police (because it will take them forever to arrive), but make sure that the person harrassing you sees where you go and that you are talking to others. They will avoid following you into a building (especially a police station), and will ignore you.

After they see you reporting their harrassment enough times, they will probably find more amusement throwing rocks off the piers. Meanwhile, you have probably recruited a few business workers in your neighborhood who will: 1) get to know you, even slightly, 2) know enough about you to look out for you when they see you pass by, and 3) if you do report any of this to police officers, they will likely step up their presence around your area. In other words, you will end up recruiting others to help you, even if they don't know it.

But, the best advantage this practice gives you is the ability to see your own surroundings and how they can help you, even if it is to avoid some name-calling for a few minutes.

Nobody deserves to fear walking home. Walking with friends, or at least knowing people on your route is a great way to defend yourself against harrassment.

I'm not in fear of my personal well being. Its more annoying and frustrating than anything lol. I don't fear someone trying to assault me or anything like that, I have no problems defending myself.


I mean if you're a stranger why do you the need to insult someone you don't know for no reason? I just don't get it. Guess its one of the harsh realities of having a disability like this.

And yea I like trains, its one of my special interests and one of my favorite reasons for living in New York.

Why would strangers just randomly do that? I thought the majority of people had empathy and knew all the social rules?

I have got harassed in public before, but not to that extent. I've got teenage boys whizzing by on bikes yelling out stupid noises at me as they pass me. And I've occasionally seen people staring at laughing at me before, although to this day I don't know why. Touch wood, I haven't had people do these things in the past couple of years. Maybe I've learnt to look more confident in my body language or something, I don't know.

But nobody's perfect and not everybody can look confident, so I don't understand why people would just pick on a random stranger. I thought NTs would know better that it's inappropriate and all that.

Luckily for me it never happened to me but some people give me weird looks. These people are insecure about themselves.

I think I have heard a few comments here and there....but usually I don't pay much attention, kind of hard to hear what someone says if they just yell something out a car window when driving by. I think the other day someone was trying to make a comment about how me, my brother and a girl he's been hanging out with where dressed the other day walking around, something along the lines of 'halloween sucks' I didn't get it though because we weren't dressed that extreme just wearing black and his female friend had fishnets and a shortish black skirt and black shirt me and my brother just had jeans and black shirts his was a t-shirt and mine was a black button up shirt with sleeves rolled up and some safety pins on back....that is extreme to some people?

Then one time me and my brother where going to a black metal and had face paint on....well we ended up having to run through the crowd watching the denver christmas parade that was the same night and got some comments, but then we where running around with black and white paint on our faces during a christmas parade...can't help it was a black metal concert though.


As for comments that bothered me I more got that when I was younger...like walking around after getting out of school for the day and other kids saying stuff like 'are you a boy or a girl' or whatever other problem they decided to have with me, but haven't got much of that since I've been an adult I guess, I've gotten plenty of not so nice looks though.