What to do about respite?

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Basically my mom hires people to hang out with me. This worked great when I was a kid. My sister and I would get to go places and have fun. This doesn't work so well at eighteen. She now mostly hires them to help with my executive functioning. We still "hang out" a bit, but it's getting very weird. Especially because my mom hired a nineteen year old. That's just embarrassing. I don't want some nineteen year old to see my underwear, watch me wake up and know about my label. I only want to be seen at my best. I kind of want my mom to stop hiring people to "hang out" with me.

Ask your mum to stop otherwise it will harm you more?

I've relinquished my need to be seen at my best, electing instead to show people the most kindness I can. Nobody wants to be watched waking up, I think these are boundaries you'll want to discuss directly.

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Can you refuse to cooperate? It would make a big bad ordeal however if your wish is to discontinue the meetings flat out refusal and throwing tantrums are strategies that will eventually work although can other negative affects regarding your future independence. Are these people babysitting you or acting as sort of a therapist? I think at 18 your an adult so at that point if your mother needs respite, you should simply be able to leave the house and give the space she needs for a few hours. The setup she appears to have now is really for the most severe and pre teenage kids.

Maybe you can come up with an acceptable alternative?