Separation anxiety and very sensitive

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Hi everyone,
So I just moved back in to a transition school that I had to leave early last year because I was sick. I thought that it was the best thing for me to be able to become independent because I was living with mg parents but I don't know if I made the right call. I am and always have been extremely sensitive to how people ( staff) talk to me or view me. Currently I'm having trouble with a staff member who is giving me mixed signals and I can't tell if she's just stressed all the time or mad at me. The other day she snapped at me saying hugs are not allowed as if she was saying just for me. I don't go around hugging people I usually hate hugs unless I initiate it for one and two if it's someone I trust deeply. This made me very angry as because she said it quite nastily. I think not being able to read nonverbal ques makes me even more paranoid about having interactions with people I like. I don't like hanging out with people my age very much I pefer staff/ adults because there easier to talk to. But lately I don't even want to talk to staff, I never like asking for help but especially don't when they shrug me off. I am a high function AS so staff expect me to get things and I think they forget I'm very much like my peers in terms of not understanding social stuff I'm just good at flying under the radar and imitating so social rules. There is one staff I am try close to and I have horrible seperation anxiety when she's in campus. I have to know what hours she works etc otherwise I get extremely anxious kinda like a stalker but I don't stalk her. I think I have such bad seperation anxiety with her because she calms me down and makes me feel safe she also has a very calming aura ( purple- blue ( I have synthesia for seeing colors around people j call them auras as the color matches the feeling or vibe I get from the person when I'm with them, but that's another topic ) anyway that plays a role in it I think this however makes me have to be in a always current state of awareness because if I don't know where she is I feel panic sometimes to the point of tears. I was wondering if any one else suffers from anxiety like this and if anyone else is so sensitive to what people tell you ( for me authority figured because I had some abusive ones in my rtc) that they don't want to even talk to people you like because if fear of being pushed away ignored etc.. Wouldn't matter if I didn't care about them. I've been having a rough time with this and I don't know what to do. Thanks for reading this long rant

Anyone ;(

I'm tired so I hope this makes sense. Can you spread out some of your attachment to other people? So it's not so difficult when the one staff member is occupied or not there?

It's of course more difficult to separate when one is anxious. So anything that calms you may help. Also not acting clingy can paradoxically help other people not try to escape. I find if someone bothers me trying to act disinterested until they stop can make a big difference.