can't get a gf to save my life help

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Here's the story:
For the past four years I have tried fruitlessly to get a girlfriend. I have talked to maybe 30-50 girls, and only one worked out for a while. I originally thought from what my mom told me that it was a result of poor posture, so I went to physical therapy to straighten out my back. Sure enough now its straight and has been that way for about a week. Still can't get a gf and not only that girls won't notice me and I am attractive and shower everyday, I have a job, have no acne, my mom says I can be a model, then why am I not getting any women? I have a strong feeling its AS. Sadly I have it for life and it can't be fixed or repaired. I am lonely as **** and have no one to really turn to. I want a girlfriend to be with and have a real relationship with, and I have a couple friends but most are beginning to drift away. I have thought about hurting myself because my distractions I usually use are running out of steam. I also know no matter what I do AS can't be dislodged. Why are women so shallow? Is there really something wrong with them dating an Aspie?. I didn't want this to happen but it did. Worst part of all this is if I continue I risk getting worse and worse.

Truthfully: you're a young guy. It took me quite a long time to find a compatible girl.

This is one true "rule of thumb": never look desperate. Just talk to girls like they're your friend. Come to think of it, it's better to make "girl" friends, so you could, perhaps, be introduced to this friend's friend. Maybe you have friends at work?

It's great that you are working--that's progress, truthfully!

You mentioned that you like to read. Many girls also like to read; you could be compatible that way. This could be a starting point. Maybe join a literary club?

The key is: you have to be patient. If you look desperate, nothing is going to happen. I used to look desperate: nothing happened! When I allow it to "come to me," I was more successful.

Women generally like confident guys, or more precisely guys who can at least pretend to be confident. It's important to not get too worked up about it or. as kraftiekortie says. you'll just end up looking desperate.

Just work on social hobbies to keep you occupied, interesting, and increase the chances of meeting girls.

Don't put yourself down about the AS thing, you need to find someone right for you. Random people come and go, it's the ones you click with that stay around.

I wouldn't try to talk up girls at libraries--only at social events sponsored by the library.

Holy Mackeral---you live close to NYC!

I live in Queens.

Just take Jersey Transit into the City!

You could join lots of literary clubs NYC

It would have been even better if you lived in a decent area near the PATH.

My father used to live in Palisades Park; my grandfather used to live in Englewood. I used to have relatives in Tenafly.

You live in a really nice area, then.

Except you might get lots of floods--especially if you're in Wayne.

If you have AS, your problem is your social skills. Start by looking up ways to improve them.
Women aren't shallow for not wanting to date you, they just want someone who can keep up with them socially and who doesn't constantly say the wrong thing.