Yet another question about meltdowns.

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I still sort out my reactions, and I wonder about my chaotic stress reactions, that have caused me trouble, - from being slightly ridiculed to actually being fired.

Example: I have planned my actions for two days and someone calls me up to ask "Should we dine together?", "When?", "What time", "I need to know precisely" and all that.

I feel pressured. My stomach turns, I feel anxiety. My heart stars racing and I can´t think straight. The conflict is too much. I may say "yes", because I feel compelled to. Afterwards the stress reaction continues. I get nothing out of my hours. I can´t concentrate. I feel driven round in thoughtless circles. I smash something, and I just get SOOO tired.

This reaction is totally out of proportion. I get a social proposition and I react as if my free will were at stake.

Example 2: I am doing kitchen work as someone knocks at my door.
It feels like an electrical shock. My brain stops. My stomach turns and the body goes into fight-or-flight mode. My hand-eye coordination breaks down, so I drop items. I may walk into a door post and I might even smash something in order to gain back control, when it´s really bad.
This is a description of a split second reaction.

I have been fired for that kind of confused response to too much input at work.

My loss of control is very brief and I don´t have grey bands and all that,- but would you think, that this is a form of meltdown?

Last edited by Jensen on 17 Aug 2014, 12:13 pm, edited 2 times in total.

This explains why my AS boyfriend has so much trouble planning dates with me. It is too stressful! I didn't understand it at first.

Do you feel anger towards the person when you have these reactions? Also, after they pass, do you still want to see the person?

Can you tell me what a grey band is?

Thanks!!

I don't know if you would call it a meltdown or not but I have the same kinds of reactions to unexpected approaches from people, change of plans, etc.

Yes, I feel anger towards the person...or maybe more towards the situation. Yes, I do want to see that person afterwards. After all I was the one reacting abnormally to a simple, friendly suggestion....but I may postpone it until it suits MY plans or when I have calmed down and am able to negotiate about the time.

It is difficult to explain why I get stressed out like that. People don´t get it, so I just ask them to accept it and give me a bit of slack.

Some people are telling about seing grey vertical stripes during a meltdown.

I guess,my reactions are not meltdowns, because the loss of control only lasts max one minute.

Last edited by Jensen on 17 Aug 2014, 12:35 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Glad, that I´m not alone. Not a screwball - only aspie.

My wife used to get upset a lot because she keeps on deciding that we should do something the next day. Even if I have nothing to do I don't want to do something tomorrow. Give me some notice. lol.

I say used to because I try and accommodate if I can these days. I do a lot of not arguing, not moaning and doing things that I don't want to do these days. Hard work though and will probably mean that I will fall asleep from mental exhaustion on those days............and get moaned at for falling asleep. lol.