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mrdecc
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02 Mar 2007, 1:05 pm

As aweful as this may sound my children are a huge source of stress and I spent an incredible amount of time coming up with strategies to minimise the anxiety( this is before I leave the bedroom to tend to their needs ). My parents ( who live quite far away ) have offered to take the children for 6 days, my initial response is panic as I am used to having the children around, then after much introspection it dawned on me that an empty space is created when one source of stress is removed. Please bear in mind this has never happened before, I live in a state of quite high anxiety (everything stresses me out! 8O ) and am not used to having an empty space in my head.
Do any of you know what I am talking about?



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02 Mar 2007, 1:55 pm

I have four kids (one with AS), and yes, it is very, very difficult to not lose your mind among all the chaos. When things get too much for me, especially if they have friends over, I go hide in my office for a while. Funny, but I feel that despite the stress of raising kids, having them has saved me from myself...I've learned invaluable coping skills because I HAD to.

The "empty space" you speak of can be a bit disconcerting -- the rare times my in-laws take the kids overnight, I feel relief and happiness at first, but soon feel restless and anxious. I miss them when they're gone for more than one day. The little dorkheads. :lol:



mrdecc
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02 Mar 2007, 2:52 pm

Funnily enough another form of empty space appears and causes me massive stress...this happens when the phone rings and a relative whom I rarely see or speak to is on the other end. Or there a salesman/jehovah's witness/gypsy/postman/milkman/neighbour/anyone other than my wife at the door....People stopping me in the street for a 'chat' draws a complete blank and erupts in an internal crisis...Goddamn it.. shoot me now!!

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