BirdInFlight wrote:
I have problems with this too. I kind of know in theory what to say, but I don't consistently manage to "pull it out of the bag" when put on the spot in the situation.
But some helpful things are stuff like saying, when there's a pause in the chat:
"Well, I'd better let you get on -- lovely talking to you!" (Nod and smile and move off toward where you were going.
"Well, time for my tea, see you around!"
Or make use of a topic she's been talking about, something like:
"Speaking of food, just off to the shops now and I better get cracking, you take care until next time!"
It usually works to start your sentence with the words "Well..." or "Anyway....I'd better (etc etc)"
"Well" and "anyway" tend to be words people start using to signal that the conversation is about to wrap up, if they are used after a pause in the chat and someone begins the next thing they're saying with one of those words.
Also the phrase "I'll let you go now" or "I'd better let you go/ let you get on" are good because they politely suggest it's you who have been keeping the person too long, even though you feel like it's them who are keeping hold of you too long!
Hope any of that helps.
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I think this is some good advice and some good skills. Of course, just like anything, like good percentage baseball, it works some of the time and doesn't work some of the time, and that's okay, too.