Getting older and being alone with HFA?

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15 Sep 2014, 10:11 pm

I have been thinking allot what my future will be like. I currently live alone with 3 cats and a dog. I have 2 jobs and work 60hrs a week. I have little time for my special interest and I seem to be on the verge of a meltdown most of the time. I have no friend's and the people in the town I live in seem scared of me. My mom is 68yrs old.

I think that someday I might end up homeless or living in poverty because I know I can't work 2 jobs forever. Last year I had some problems and was told that if I can't take of myself I would need to be put in a group home. I'm High Functioning and I can take care of myself. But it would be nice if someone helped me sometimes.


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15 Sep 2014, 10:29 pm

I know the feeling.

I am already worrying about the same thing myself. I am 37 and cannot work at all (POTS/CFS/fibro) and am on welfare. I live with a roommate who is hardly ever here and he is way older than I am (56). He's a great roommate but I won't be able to live with him forever!

I have my 2 cats and a bunny. If I didn't have them for company I think I'd go stark-raving mad! I was raised solely by my mother who is passed, and I am not on good terms with my father who was a deadbeat my whole childhood and still is and refuses to help me out financially now (he's got money).

The couple of people I know who aren't even close friends are just about as poor as I am.

I'd probably end up in a group home I guess. That's if the stupid tachycardia the POTS gives me doesn't do me in first!


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15 Sep 2014, 10:32 pm

Well, there's SSI. It might be a good idea to think about places with cheap rent you could stay if you had to rely on SSI or SSDI for rent, or save up for a camper or something so that you would always have a roof over your head.

I've been thinking about something like an Autistic Care Network, in which the more able members could pull together to help the less able members. "Less able" due to autism symptoms, sickness, or old age. Everyone could just contribute whatever she could: visit one day a week to make sure the person is ok, prepare a meal, or just provide something in emergencies.



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15 Sep 2014, 10:41 pm

It took me quite a while, but I am finally quite content to be alone for the rest of my life. If anything, I really appreciate the solitude any more.



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15 Sep 2014, 10:58 pm

I am over 65 and living on SSI and a some savings but when my savings run out I will not be able to stay were I am living now and I am panicking. I want to stay here.



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15 Sep 2014, 11:11 pm

If you are living alone then why are you needing to work 2 jobs anyways. are you taking care of your mother as well? I live by myself with no wife and kids and I get by on a part time job just fine.



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15 Sep 2014, 11:11 pm

currently 17, living with parents. i haven't had an actual job yet but i've done some odd jobs with my uncle for little pay.

i'm nearly panicking.


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16 Sep 2014, 10:28 am

Kiprobalhato wrote:
currently 17, living with parents. i haven't had an actual job yet but i've done some odd jobs with my uncle for little pay.

i'm nearly panicking.


No need to panic just yet, silly thing. You're only 17! There's people twice your age still living at home, if it makes you feel any better. I am in my early twenties myself and haven't been able to get my own place yet. A lot of people have this problem, both NT and AS alike. Housing and rent are expensive, jobs aren't exactly growing on trees and as a result not everyone is able to achieve independence as early as they would like. There's many cultures in which living at home longer is not frowned upon, but sadly the Western world is largely different in this regard. A shame, really, because there's absolutely nothing wrong with living at home with your parents.

My advice? Keep a cool head, and stay calm. You'll be fine. Things will work out in the next few years, I'm sure. As far as not having had a job yet goes, I didn't have my first until I was 18 either so again, no shame. :wink:



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16 Sep 2014, 11:04 am

Kiprobalhato wrote:
currently 17, living with parents. i haven't had an actual job yet but i've done some odd jobs with my uncle for little pay.

i'm nearly panicking.


You're still young. I'm 25 going on 26 and still live with my parents. I can't hold down a job because combined, my disabilities can cause a lot of chaos for me. I also can't go to college for the vary same reasons.

Anyway, to the OP: I think I get what you are saying. However, I can barely care for myself. :/ I can't cook or clean. I can't drive due to dyspraxia. As I said above, I can't hold down a job at all. I'll end up either homeless, having a caregiver tend to my every need or in a group home as well. I hope the hell my parents can manage to find a caregiver to look after me though. It would be much easier because they know well enough that my routine would be absolutely chaotic if I can't have the internet either.


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16 Sep 2014, 12:57 pm

Or you could all become a part of the Autistic mutual support community being built in colorado.