Hell for people with AS?

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My brother said to me "there are people with aspergers who go through absolute hell everyday"

What kind of 'hell' might he mean?

Constant anxiety, worrying, panic attacks, health anxiety, stomach aches, muscle pains, etc. That's what I go through.

And all because society makes us conform

Pretty much - too bad we don't live in a much more diverse and accepting world.

Why can't the world be accepting?

The more I tried to fit in over the years, the more I realized it was not a good thing and that I would be better off marching to my own drummer.

The bombardment of the world on the person's sensory issues.

Social interactions becoming exhausting but the person also can't extricate themselves due to slow processing of their own emotional status.

Teasing, bullying and being taken advantage of by people who sniff out that they can do those things to you.

Not being able to stand up for yourself when put on the spot in a situation with another person, again because of thinking processes being compromised especially when stressed.

Stress in general.

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Sensory overload can be really brutal especially with sounds.

You know, the panic attacks and anxiety don't really have anything to do with other people.

I just see things in the worst light sometimes--I don't know why. Catastrophic probabilities seem overwhelmingly likely, even when they are highly improbable from a rational perspective.

Somehow focus goes right to the negative possibilities and amplifies them.

I have learned to view my own emotions in this area with deep distrust.

The biggest hell I went through was mentioning I had AS at work. I had a good moderately paying job. I mentioned it, and got screwed over in the end by upper management. (getting demoted) Had some sort of nervous breakdown, then I put my two weeks in)
Not sure why I said it, people noticed there was something "off" about me on certain days, and I wanted to get more comfortable I guess... but it made things worse..I'm a little bit better now. Lesson learned!

When I was growing up I wasn't an Aspie, I was a person with no discipline. I was a person who didn't follow directions. I was a person who didn't stand up straight. So my parents sent me to military school hell after I graduated from high school. Being yelled at from the moment you woke up until you fell asleep would make me "normal" they hoped. After six weeks I woke up before dawn, went up to the attic and found my street clothes, and hit the road hitchhiking. I travelled ¾ of the way across the country...

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Yes, yes it can. This is my primary source of trouble every day, far more than interacting with people, as I do very little of that.

There godda be hope. Look at what the gay rights people did. I grew up in the 1980's and during that time. Gay people where absolutely hated and despised. In fact, gay people where hated so badly back then, that if you even so much as give a hint of being gay. they might find your body in a dumpster. Kids in school who where accused of being gay where taken in the back and had the sh!t beaten out of them. Now look at today. The gay lifestyle is now accepted as normal now, and gay people no longer live in fear. I hope autistics will have the same success in fighting for there rights like the gay people did.



Going through public, catholic and boarding was hell enough for me as it is. I can't even imagine how much worse military school must be. BTW: I almost went to military school.

It is a catch 22. If you don't "fit in" you can't afford a lot of the tools need to not to fit in.

The gay people never ran away from gay or gay pride despite negative associations with those words. Nobody would hire gay teachers because it was thought they would molest and try to convert the kids to being gay. That is a hell of a lot worse association then ASS-BURGERS or excuse makers. Speaking of excuse makers the gays confronted negative and wrong things said about them. They did not buy into them. They did not accept to having any representation no matter how negative just because they were being represented