To posters who post threads that don't get many answers

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I know from being on the spectrum that I get paranoid and anxious on a regular basis.


Here is why I do not answer some posts and I would say a lot of members on here have similar reasons.


If a member starts a thread asking a question that I do not have an answer to I will not reply.

If a member asks a question that is complicated or difficult and outside my experience there is not point in my trying to reply.

I have started many threads at this stage some of them sink and so of them get lot's of replies.

My advice to members who start a thread that sinks is to break the problem into smaller parts and try asking them questions if possible.


Sometimes I feel bad for reading a sinking thread in which a member is having a real problem and I do not post a reply.

In the end I think I am being kinder to not reply and waste an OPs time if I do not have a decent answer.


I hope that helps.

I don't reply to posts and threads for the following reasons:

I don't know how people will take my answer

It's not politically correct for this forum and I know it's an unpopular opinion

I can't relate

I don't have that problem

I have no advice

I couldn't follow what was written

It was simply a troll or provocative and I can't be bothered to respond

I don't feel like writing even though I can relate or have that same issue and I have already written about it before years back several times

I have had problems with that person before so replying won't do any good if it's directed at them

I don't know the answer

Someone simply just wants to argue than discuss

I am talking to a brick wall

I think the person is an idiot and I won't waste my time with them

That topic has been beat to death and no one will ever change their view so why discuss it or argue?

And lot of the times it has nothing to do with either of these, I just have nothing to add or contribute nor what to say and I don't read everything here nor all posts in threads.

I don't answer because sometimes the thread might be similar to another thread I might have responded to and I have a thing about not wanting to repeat myself.

Also, I'm suspicious about the intentions of some thread makers especially if they are first time posters. I think they might be trolls.

Other times I simply am not in the mood to communicate my opinions in the public arena.

Sometimes I fear confrontation.

The list goes on....

I dont often get many answers when i start a thread. Even when I add a reply on to someone else thread the thread immediately dies. I dont know why but it might be due to my not so good intelligence, maybe wp users only prefer to read and reply to people whose posts sound intelligent or something, or maybe, like people, posts also give of a vibe that either attracts other posters or doesn't.

My typing has got better, and there is now spell check so my posts should be making more sense than they used to. Im not too good on the computer, my husband lets me use his laptop so that I can go on this site but thats all I do otherwise I'm not really a computer person .

I will be surprised if I see any more posts after this one, as usually when i post the thread suddenly dies off.

Yeah I don't reply for various reasons. One of the main being that if I reply the thread could end up perma-dead.

Another reason why I might not respond in a thread is because I read the title and it sounds like something I'd like to join in with, then when I go into the thread the OP is far too long for me to read.

Also sometimes I don't feel confident to join in.

Sometimes I don't reply because I get overwhelmed by the Original Post. If a post is complicated it can be overwhelming. Some posts are not as concisely written and can be difficult to understand.

My threads usually do not get many answers, but I think it is my lack of reciprocal communication, I had a thread recently digged up from over a year ago and I did get replies a year ago but I did not answer to them,
but I read them a year ago and they are interesting but I just fail communicating back,
not in my mind because I think about the answers but I have difficulty going from my inside mind to an outside mind.
but in the meanwhile I learned more about the lack in reciprocal communication and I try however.
I do not reply to threads often because of said lack of communication,
and threads are sometimes emotionally loaded and I just don't know what to write when they are emotionally loaded,
or there is so much information given that I get overload from it,
or I am just not interested.
Now for a few days I feel a bit more desire to communicate,
but I don't know how long it will last,
my desire to communicate is usually not very high,
I communicate here on the forums more than I do in the "real" world.
But I am not "cold" about what people write,
it is just hard to put the inside mind into an outside mind (writing).

1] A wall of text will put me off replying.

2] I like others have replied with sensible suggestions to threads appealing for help, only for the original poster to not even bother replying or acknowledging what others have posted yet minutes later they're off posting about video games and such like.

Sometimes I don't reply because:

There isn't a clear question

There is too much information, the post is too long (which I am often guilty of myself)

I don't have the information they are looking for

I have too much information and can't figure out how to word it briefly, so I give up

Sometimes I forget to submit my response


I personally get kind of paranoid when people don't respond right away, and I have actually gone and changed the entire post when this happened so it is easier to respond to. I think the biggest things are to make posts less wordy and repetitive, more to-the-point, and contain some clear questions.

Also, I think I sometimes make a post, and then people answer my question thoughtfully and I forget to respond to them, even though I did appreciate their response. Sometimes I even write the response to them but forget to hit submit... I hope I haven't done that too often because I don't want to offend anyone.

There are a lot of threads I don't reply to because of either 1) I really don't have an opinion one way or the other, 2) the thread doesn't interest me, 3) I have no knowledge of the subject being discussed, 4) the thread has already devolved into a flame war, and I'm ready to invoke Godwin's law or 5) the thread already has died, and any comments I might make won't br read.

The reason I don't post in a big amount of threads anymore, is because if I don't have anything to add to a thread, I just leave it. I also don't post if the thread is made by someone who's the polar opposite that I am, because it's just better for me to keep the peace and avoid hurting feelings. I wasn't always the gentle soul that I've decided to aspire to be, five years ago today and I've said a lot of stupid things between 2007 and half of 2009.

Honestly, the main reason why I don't reply to certain threads is just because I'm afraid my opinions will be taken the wrong way, and that people will get upset with me. A lot of aspies are free-spirited and don't care, but I've been indoctrinated to kiss ass and try to live up to other people's expectations, as people tend not to like it when I'm blunt and honest. I mean, I'm fairly blunt compared to the average person, but sometimes I want to say things, and I won't just because I don't want a negative reaction.

The main reason I don't reply a lot is because I have trouble transferring my ideas from my brain to a page. It can take me as long as thirty minutes to organize my thoughts and type them out. So while there could be many topics to which I could reply to, I don't respond to most of them because it would take too long.
Other reasons I have passed threads up would be because there were already four pages of replies, someone else has already mentioned what I was going to say, or I didn't know much about the subject being discussed. In most cases, it has nothing to do with my opinion of the OP.