Odd relationship to do with autism

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Ok so as a thing to start with my closest friend and I made a pact that if we weren't married by 42 we would marry each other. We both love picking at details and have added on a lot of little things to our plot. Last week we kind of ended up having to tell our friends about the pact and from there decided its be an interesting experiment for us to pretend to be a real couple in order to see if we could convince our other friends and see how they react. I've never been in a relationship before other than a pretend one for drama at school. Thing is in the last two of three days I've started to feel pretty giggly and excited about the whole thing and recently we decided to treat our trip out this weekend as a 'date'. My heart has now started thud seeing over this. The thing is, I'm pretty certain this isn't real and I don't think I have any paryicular feelings towards my friend. I think the whole idea of a relstionship, even if it is pretend,is making me act as if it were real.
Has anyone else experienced this, a kind of excitement and love of the idea of some kind of relationship? Is this an autism thing? Is it a normal thing for a girl to feel around a pretend 'date'? I am really confused about this. Is this amother example of what another friend calls a showe crush, whereby you only feel a certain way bevause you are pretending to feel that way?
Thank for your help

Put on a princess costume and you start to feel like a princess. Put on a troll costume and you start to feel like an ugly troll. That happens to everybody. Role playing games are fun and let you explore feelings you didn't know you could have.

As for actually getting married someday, who knows? You sound like you already have a better foundation than most people. You already know each other and still like each other, warts and all. You're just exploring yourselves and each other from a different angle.

I'd say go for it, and give yourself permission to enjoy the giddy feelings, regardless of whether they are "real," whatever that is.