I love my niece but everything she does makes me hate her

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ok, so my sister had a baby last year and of course im instantly inlove with it, its a girl named Mila and shes got the most adorable face and voice, but MY GOD DO I HATE THAT BABY!!

its not that i dislike her or anything, but when she screams and cries and follows me around the house and never leaves me alone, i just end up disliking her, especially because i need to share ALL my food with her or shell scream, i need to hold her and walk around with her, i need to acknowledge her all the time or shell scream. she ALWAYS wants to be held, she ALWAYS wants what i have in my hands, she ALWAYS takes my things a slobbers all over them, i really dont like babies, but at the same time i get along with them and they get along with me.

its gotten to the point where i just stay up in my room and hide because i hate hearing the whining, and screaming and constantly being followed around.

its terrible because i want to love her and stuff but i just dont have the energy and i dont have the capabilities to be with that baby.

i dont know what to do... i dont like living with babies...

How about giving her just one toy like a plushie that smells like you, so she can snuggle with that?

I don't know if you watch Friends but this reminds me of the episode where Rachel's baby Emma cried & cried because Joey had given her a plush toy he called Hugsy that smelled like him, and he tried to replace it with an exact identical toy, but she didn't want it - she wanted Hugsy because it smelled like him....

Earplugs for the screaming? I wouldn't be able to tolerate whining & screaming either

Do you have a room of your own that you can go to and shut the door?

One year olds need a lot of attention. And at that age they really seem to be attached to their primary caregivers. Can anyone else do more taking care of her so she attaches more to them and less to you? And follows them around and eats their food?

Are you her babysitter? If not, pick her up and hand her to whoever IS supposed to be watching her.

Poor kid.

I hope she manages to overcome the lack of love and attention in her formative years.

Is that what the mother does, give the child anything it wants to prevent the child tantrums? If so there's troubled days ahead for that family.

Its hard to deal with someone else's kids. Generally you try to adopt the methodology of the parents and in that way support what they are doing.

But when the parent(s) are doing it badly, such as spoiling the child, going along with it just makes it worse. In such a case I would also just try to stay away from it as much as possible, and when you can't still try to establish boundries and rules for the child in a interactive way, more non-verbal way. The child may at least learn to respect you.

I think your right avoiding discussing the child rearing with your sister, or any parent for that matter. Lost cause, if you bring it up. If they ask you about it, be diplomatic about your thoughts and reinforce that you respect the parents prerogative in parenting and don't want to interfere with what they are trying to do. Actual abuse is an exception of course, but not the case here.