Parents doesn't want me to seek help.

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How do I deal with this?

Everyday I'm essentially struggling with every aspect an autistic has (just milder), and my parents doesn't let me seek help without them threating me.

What should I do?

I've seriously never had anyone to talk to during my entire life (17 now) meaning that I've never gotten any help, It's damn bothersome.

Why are your parents refusing to let you get help? What do they say? Can you talk to your school counselor about some of the things you need to talk about? Once you turn 18, you won't need their consent to get whatever you need.

I understand what they feel but I don't agree with it and I think it is very bad. Like StarTrekker said, as soon as you reach legal age do what you need to do to help yourself. If you can get a diagnosis, it might be free in Sweden, I am not sure, I would get one and try to get whatever services will help you. But as long as you are not of legal age, you will need your parent's consent. So if you can just hold on the best you can until then that is what you might have to do. But hopefully you can get some help in coping with your life situations here. But like StarTrekker also said, if there is someone at school you can talk to to try to help your parents understand your situation that would probably be a good idea.

Yes, Skibum, as far as I know ASD assessments in Sweden are free (unless you choose to get assessed by a private practice psychologist (not sure what it's called in English)). The queues are very long though (I had to wait 1.5 years for my assessment). However, the queues might be shorter the younger you are. Not sure.

Quantum, could you talk to a school nurse/psychologist about your situation? Perhaps they could help you talk to your parents.

When / if you talk to a school counsellor, tell them about your parents. Specifically tell them that your parents said they didn't want their reputation to be ruined. That sounds really bad, like they think their reputation is more important than your wellbeing. Counsellors do take that stuff into account when deciding how to handle things like referring you to external services.

I concur with Tiffany; your parents' reputation ought to be irrelevant when compared to your mental well-being. Frankly I'm a little insulted that they should consider ASD to be such a terrible thing as to ruin their reputation simply by their association with you. You can tell them that a diagnosis won't ruin your life, but not receiving one and missing out on the help and support you need very likely will.

Definitely talk to your school counselor. It's a start.

Ok, thanks for the help!