Needless praise pisses me off

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Last edited by MatchingBlues on 28 Sep 2014, 6:21 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You grind your teeth while having your balled fist in your mouth, like, all at once? That sounds painful...



It could be interpreted as such, although it sounds a tad bit extreme and I've never heard of this before. Still, it may very well be a stim.



A good move on your part. It may be difficult at first but it's worth the effort as this probably impairs your functioning and also affects negatively people's perception of you, sadly enough.



You already say you try to stop doing it, which is a good thing. Don't quit the race before it is run, man! Hang in there, stay calm and focused. If it was bad enough for them to be firing you, trust me, you'd know by know! Don't be so hard on yourself, you are trying to change and that's admirable. Keep your head up high and try your hardest, so in the end you know you've given your all and everything, regardless of the outcome.

Good luck!

This is why I don't tell anyone I have Asperger's. I don't want to be THAT guy, the one who gets the slightly higher, slower tone of voice when spoken to. The guy who nobody goes to for real problems or given a job that matters in the long run. Unfortunately, OP, you're that guy.

Quit your job as soon as possible. Get a new one and do NOT tell anyone your diagnosis. A paycheck doesn't give you self respect, you do.

This. This, so much.

I don't have an Asperger's diagnosis. The person I'm seeing for counseling thinks I have something of that sort but nothing's come out of that yet. I just have these mannerisms. We are often a convening agency between other organizations. I also think it has to do with me looking young. I am 23 but can pass for 17 or 18. I have done things for other people that have caused them to be like, "Wow, you did all that?" because I know they didn't think I was capable of doing what really are simple things. Or maybe they can't. Why are they f*****g employed? It's pathetic. Then they ask for the same thing to be done again? I thought YOU knew it all!

I think I mentioned before that I'm asked a lot about why I'm not in grad school at the same time as this job. I have no desire to get a Master's degree right now. That requires money. The people who ask this often have the support of their family either paying or offering a place to live even if they are in their mid to late twenties. I don't. I have seen many scenarios where NTs are living with their parents into their mid thirties, with children, blaming the economy for that.

I would just like to get over that particular mannerism because it is the most noticeable one, and something I do under conditions of high stress.

And when I was waiting tables in the interim period while finding a job, my manager asked if something was up in situations where I was really anxious. But I always did my job well. I only worked there for a month and a half, but made $4,500 off tips. I left because a waitress was stealing money out of the cash register and blamed me for it when people were talking about seeing her do it. The security cameras are only there to "scare" you, and I had already talked to the manager about it, but he told me company policy forbids firing people, for whatever reason, if they just had a baby or are pregnant. She had just had a baby, would brag about her $200 an hour personal trainer, and whine about how her WIC and food stamp benefits weren't enough. She kept calling me racial slurs, kept accusing me of stealing money from the register, and at that point, money from other waitress's tables, and I blew up in front of the all the customers and called her a welfare whore (that's what she is) who was really the one stealing money from other people. Management wanted me to come back, called several times. I told them I wouldn't work with them unless they fired this societal tax rapist.

After I left, some of my "regulars" asked management why I wasn't working there. Then they said they wouldn't come back unless I was back. But I'd like something more career-oriented.

When I say I push my fist to my mouth, it's to my mouth closed. I'm grinding my teeth and my fist is pushed to my mouth. It's not all at the same time. Sorry for the confusion.