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I was working at my job today, I saw two classmates from my school and found out they both have high paying jobs now! They graduated with me in my high school, and one didn't even remember me till I mentioned to her who I was. While it was nice to see them again, it made me feel like a loser inside because I realize I look like a fool being a cashier at my age while they already have jobs such as teaching a class and working as a car salesman, and they also easily drive and have relationships and friends of their own. The youngsters I work with at my job are at least a few year younger than me and that's what they will eventually all end up with also. I will end up just being likely working at that same place, or making very little progress, for pretty much the rest of my life thanks to AS, something I never asked for. I now feel pretty upset. Anybody who would like to share similar experiences, post them down below. Thanks.

'High paying' jobs aren't necessarily good jobs. A lot of pressure is put on people by society to become 'successful'. It all depends what your definition of success is. To have a high powered job that stresses you out and takes you away from your family, friends, leisure interests etc isn't my idea of success.
I had this pressure put on me too. I'm now in a well paid job where I deal with lots of people everyday. It almost kills me. When I was younger I did farm work which I loved but it wasn't seen as a worthwhile career because the money wasn't great. No one took into consideration the enjoyment I derived from of this type of work - it's all about the money and status.

There's some great advice here.

I do think it is easier for women in our society to opt out of stressful jobs than for men, however.

BUT, there are still many, many legitimate jobs that are not stressful that are very rewarding. Raleigh is right - they may not be high-paying, but high-paying jobs are not necessarily good jobs.

Farm-related jobs are great for Aspies. The animals are very calming, the fresh air (or not so fresh at times, LOL) is very soothing. The work is hard and the hours are long, but the pace is not really rushed. You just can't do a lot of farm work faster. It takes the time that it takes. I know people who have a place to live on the property that they are working on as part of their compensation (not the whole thing - they get money, too.)

Who cares what you do if it is legal, honest, and it makes you happy?