mother barges in

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i have bad relationship with my mother she is a narcissistic women and did horrible things to me in the past
backstabbing me, feeding rubbish about me to my hubby, calling up my in laws and poisioning them against me

i had cut contact with her but due to societal pressure reconnected with her

but maintained my distance and just used to call up occassionally and visit once or twice a year

but yesterday she barged into my house with baggage and saying she wants to stay for 3 days
she and my brother tried calling me up and i didnt answer the phone

but yet she barged in i hate having her around
i want to get rid of her

i cant sleep its 3 in the night now

please guide

Tolerate it for 3 days then absolutely insist she goes - don't let 3 days turn into a week, then a month, etc.

While she's there is there any hope of reconciliation? Or is she one of those types who will take no responsibility for anything whatsoever and acts like she is perfect?

she denies doing anything with me
neither abuse physical or verbal

she acts like im the criminal

i want her out now

she is a crook

Tell her to leave. You are an adult with your own home, and if you don't take the initiative, it won't get better.

i have been shouting for around 2 hours and yelling at mmy hubby telling him how people exploit him and barge into our house
she has been hearing all this but not leaving the premise

You need to tell her directly to her face that she needs to leave immediately or you'll call the cops & get her arrested for trespassing in your home.

So what's her motive? Why is she there? If you can figure that out it may help you to deal with the situation. I think you should talk to her and try to suss her out.

You need to tell her directly to her face that she needs to leave immediately or you'll call the cops & get her arrested for trespassing in your home.[/quote]
here police cares a damn even if there is murder they hardly bother
its a 3rd world country

all other relatives have cut her off
nobody is interested in her

her daughter in law has gone to village for some urgent work
and my niece has 3 days holiday

so my mom decided to barge in with my niece
i dont mind having my niece around

but my mother is vile, scheming character
she feeds my hubbys ears with rubbish

That's unfortunate. Does your husband know better than to listen to her, or does he side with her?

he is a dumbo
when i was 8 months pregnant
this scheming witch fixed my brothers wedding in a different state
and she started forcing me to attend the wedding
i was unable to even walk properly with swollen legs
she kept calling me and abusing me on phone
then she yelled at my husband
my husband put up with this nonsense

then she called up my inlaws telling me
i insulted her and told her i wont attend the wedding

the truth was i was unable tto attend due to pregnancy

but this vile women as her ways
forcing and coaxing

and my hubby tolerates her BS
which in turn leads to problems for me

Then to hell with what people might say! If all of this is true just throw her out on the street. Sorry if my advice isn't great but that is how I would feel.

Then to hell with what people might say! If all of this is true just throw her out on the street. Sorry if my advice isn't great but that is how I would feel.[/quote]
she will go and cry to relatives that i threw her out
im heartless selfish daughter who used her parents
i m a witch and she will tell my niece that i am a bad person
i know her tactics well

Well try not to get sucked into her games. That's what she wants - it's emotionally abusive. I hope she leaves your company soon.

she will go and cry to relatives that i threw her out
im heartless selfish daughter who used her parents
i m a witch and she will tell my niece that i am a bad person
i know her tactics well[/quote]
If she does she does & cut ties with the relatives who buy into her $hit. I'd cut everyone out who did that cr@p to me & I'd be much better off for it.

It's weird your husband is so passive considering it's your mother and not his. It's a shame he doesn't stick up for you more.

I still say give her the 3 days; if she isn't gone by then, dump her luggage on the street. After that, I wouldn't worry about what she says to your relatives. It sounds like they know what your mother is like anyway.