Can you tell someone is interested in what you have to say?

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I've seen the question or some version of it asked on a few different autism screening test. Personally, I would have to go with option # 3. I am really not sure if I can tell if someone is interested or bored in what I am saying. When I was younger I think I was pretty socially awkward and un-astute about such things. I know that I can pull off a little bit of informal social chit-chat now - something I learned how to do over a number of years. But when it comes to a more in-depth conversation - I guess I have to say that I just don't know. I think sometimes I get it right and the other person is interested. But I guess sometimes I get it wrong and completely miss the cues that the other person is not interested or I am unintentionally annoying them.

Yes I can tell if someone is intrested or not in what I'm going to say, there are some people who get intrested but most people aren't its because I talk in an awkward way with a very low voice with no eye contact and I always talk about weird stuff which never interest most people

no. i have no idea whether other people are interested in what i am saying. i just say what i want to say and if people depart, then i stay talking to myself.

I think people are usually pretty obvious when they show that they're not interested. But when they're not yawning/ turning away/ fidgeting/ looking at their watch/ seeming distracted/ seeming bored/ saying too little (for them) or otherwise show clearly that they're not interested, I can never tell if they are interested or just hiding that they're not.
Of course, that's assuming I even have something to say, which more often than not, I do not.

Apparently, I cannot tell. I just assume people are interested because I don't normally speak unless it's something important (at least to me). I usually get the hint though when the person says, "Man, shut the he** up, you've been talking about this forever!"

What's the difference between options 2 and 3?

I can't tell beforehand, but after saying a couple sentences if nobody's listening I can take the hint.