Do you think it's possible to *ignore* loneliness?

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15 Oct 2014, 12:15 am

I think, yes, but it's so variable and contextual... e.g. instead of actually interacting with anyone IRL, I interact with NPCs! (Well, you see, these sprites stuck in video games... unless programmed otherwise they actually can't escape my obsessiveness! Muahaha...)

But... well, yes, sometimes I notice that the whole point of interaction (information, really) is fulfilled in such virtual exchanges... and although I don't end up in bleak rumination, I still also notice that something is missing... but, there's nothing better than anime and RPGs, right? Not even a boyfriend, muahaha... or not. Well, apples and oranges.

Like an experiment, in ten years' time I'd be interested to see what a person in relative isolation ends up like...



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15 Oct 2014, 2:48 am

It's possible for me to ignore my loneliness when I'm alone by myself.
It's impossible for me to ignore my loneliness when I'm alone with other people.


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15 Oct 2014, 3:39 am

I once spent three weeks as a total recluse. I do not recall feeling particularly lonely.

I only feel lonely when I want to spend time with one of my friends but they're not available.



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15 Oct 2014, 12:20 pm

Mootoo wrote:
I think, yes, but it's so variable and contextual... e.g. instead of actually interacting with anyone IRL, I interact with NPCs! (Well, you see, these sprites stuck in video games... unless programmed otherwise they actually can't escape my obsessiveness! Muahaha...)

But... well, yes, sometimes I notice that the whole point of interaction (information, really) is fulfilled in such virtual exchanges... and although I don't end up in bleak rumination, I still also notice that something is missing... but, there's nothing better than anime and RPGs, right? Not even a boyfriend, muahaha... or not. Well, apples and oranges.

Like an experiment, in ten years' time I'd be interested to see what a person in relative isolation ends up like...


What do you mean by "relative isolation"- relative to what?



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15 Oct 2014, 2:46 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
It's possible for me to ignore my loneliness when I'm alone by myself.
It's impossible for me to ignore my loneliness when I'm alone with other people.


^This.

When I'm alone I can distract myself endlessly. When I'm around other people I feel what it is I'm missing.



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16 Oct 2014, 11:03 pm

I'm not sure I've ever felt lonely. I've only lived alone for short periods of time, though I've traveled alone, and most of the time I didn't have friends. I've felt left out and out of place (in a group), but that's not loneliness, is it, since I would have been perfectly happy at home by myself instead.

I'm actually wondering if someone can explain what it's like to be lonely, because I really don't know if I ever have been or am capable of it. I don't usually have trouble knowing what I'm feeling (though often no word seems to fit it), but this is one that confuses me.



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16 Oct 2014, 11:15 pm

In the short term, yes
In the long term, no



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16 Oct 2014, 11:26 pm

I never feel lonely when I spend time a lone I love spending time a lone but I don't like it when I feel disconnected and uninvolved when I'm with a group of people it hurts me because I feel they're all together while I'm not even thought I'm also being with them but I'm being ignored mostly so it makes me feel so lonely