Did you share a room growing up?

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Up until a few months ago as an only child I had my own room. And it's always been my sanctuary. But my aunt and uncle are getting a divorce and her and my cousin are living with us now, and now I share my room with him. Since our mom's are sisters and best friends and me an my cousin are only a few months apart, we have practically been raised together and we're really close. Sometimes we even sleep in the same bed together. I thought it would be okay sharing with him because we are such good buddies. But it's starting to get to me and I don't like that. I love him a lot and he's going through a tough time. Maybe it's something that I'll have trouble with now, but adjust to later?

well i'm glad you two are close because nothing's worse than sharing a room with someone you don't really like. but even if you like the person, it can get annoying. i think it's possible for you to adjust, but you may never really 'like' sharing a room with him. especially if you said it was your sanctuary, this might be a tough thing to adjust to. how long will they be staying with you guys? is there somewhere else you can designate as a temporary sanctuary in the meantime?


EDIT: i forgot to add, yes i shared a room growing up. cus we moved around a lot so sometimes my whole family shared a room (one room hotels) or i would have to share a room with a sibling. but i also had places where i had my own room. even though my siblings are nice and more understanding than anyone else i know, it was still kind of draining to have to share a room with them.

Hi, Ezra...it's awfully nice of you to be concerned about your cousin. You're a very caring and sensible young man, from what you post. I think that since you and your cousin are so close, it will straighten itself out eventually, as the two of you learn more about each other's special routines, creature comforts, pet peeves, etc; but if problems do arise, perhaps it might be wise to set some boundaries/guidelines with your parents or another adult you both trust. Sometimes folks who are great friends can have difficulties actually being roommates.

Anyway, to answer your question....yes, I have had experience sharing a room. When I'd go to my mom and stepdad's house every other week as a kid, I would share a room with my two younger half-sisters, Pandy and Birdgirl. It started out with Pandy and I actually sleeping in the same bed while Birdgirl slept in a crib (they were both pretty little back then) and then Pandy and I got bunk beds. Pandy slept on the lower bunk, and I slept on top, since I was older....for safety reasons. I really wouldn't have cared which bunk I had. Birdgirl still had her crib.

Then, Birdgirl grew out of her crib, and then she and Pandy shared the lower bunk, while I slept on top. Then, my mom and stepdad moved, and then Pandy and Birdgirl shared a room (and bunk beds) and I had my own room (when I came to spend time with them, per the child custody agreement).

I didn't really mind having to share a room with Pandy and Birdgirl...I actually would feel a sense of security knowing that both of them were in the same room as me. It was just something I became used to. I didn't like it when they'd get into my stuff though....I just learned to keep my favorite things in high places where they couldn't reach, or carry them around with me at all times.

I never had a room on my own I was always with my sister and its very annoying lol I don't like it I can't concentrate or do anything because I don't feel the room is all my property I don't even like sitting in it or cleaning and organizing it because of that

I shared a room at times with my sister growing up.

And now, I share a room with my husband.

What is important is having some place in your house where you can get away by yourself for a time when you need to. In my family, if I need to be in my room alone, I will say so and that is respected. But, I also have a little office that is my very own.

If your aunt and cousin are staying very long term, can you get a loft bed? You can make a mini living-room underneath where you can have your own private space. You might even be able to put up a curtain to close it off.

It would definitely be worth the money if your aunt and cousin are staying long-term. Your cousin may want one, too. That way, you would each have your own mini-rooms within the larger room you share.

I shared a room with my brother when i was very little, under four. then i had my own room for a while. then i moved in with my aunt and her kids and shared with my cousin. then i lived in just a livingroom with my mum. now i live with my partner and we share a room.

sharing is hard and an important part of making it easier is as nerdygirl said, alone time.

This is something that I've never really thought about before, but here goes.

When I was quite young I never really had a room. There was a few of us in the house but it seems there wasn't enough beds.

I just used to sleep wherever there was room. I can remember sharing with my dad, my sisters and my brother. I never really had any possessions as such, so a room was just literally for sleeping in. It seems a bit strange now I'm thinking about it.

Later on I was in childrens homes so it was inevitable that I would share. It never really bothered me to be honest.

The one thing I don't like as an adult is sharing a bed.

I did when I was much younger but our house had enough rooms for all of us so when I was in elementary school, I moved to the basement ( although the house is on a hill so half of the basement is actually on ground level)

I shared with my Brother till about age 13-14. Then we had separate rooms. Having your own room and private space is easily a much better situation. Don't feel bad missing it.

At age 20 then I went backwards so-to-speak, at first living in an open bay with 40 other guys , and later sharing rooms with at least one person for a few years. The rooms and people changed constantly and after a while you just get used to it, and noise and weird hours. I did always try however to have my own separate section of the room, which was better then nothing. As autistics we have more need for private time and space, but its not always possible. So what you can do is push that privacy ever deeper within and surrender to the situation overall. Go with the flow as the saying goes. Eventually I was able to have my own place again, till married and now I am back to sharing a bed with my wife and two dogs. But we have some separate spaces within the house that are more individual.

So what you have now is just something to put up with while it lasts. It won't last forever or even perhaps very long. Its like you have a choice in these things. You can let it get to you which just makes things suck more, or make the best of it under the circumstances.

Never but I'm an only child

I go to boarding school and am supposed to be sharing a room with my room mate but she hasn't turned up yet.

I occasionally share a room with one of my friends if she wants to board at school for a night or two. It feels weird when she stays in my room but I guess that's because I'm used to having my own room.

I only got my own room when i was 11-12.Before that i shared a room with my two younger brothers,it wasnt always easy but there were fun times too three beds (one bunk,one reg) in one room gives plenty of materials to make a good fort

I know a lot of us need solitude and I always had it, but then wondered about those who didn't growing up. I have my hiding places though