Do any of you thrive when isolated from others?

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07 Dec 2014, 10:19 am

If you've ever heard the well known Quote by John Donne "No man is an island" which in part was suggesting to say that Humans do not thrive when isolated from others. (Although the quote means more than that.)

I find that Quote hard to relate to because I often find that I thrive in working on tasks or problems more so when I am isolated from others rather than when I am integrated with them. Do any of you feel the same in some way?



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07 Dec 2014, 11:03 am

Oh, yeah----TOTALLY!! Being around people usually just confuses me, messes-up my concentration, slows me down.....

.....and the list goes on and on.....



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07 Dec 2014, 12:09 pm

I do better, most of the time, when I'm on my own.



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07 Dec 2014, 12:23 pm

In a job context, yes I usually work much better alone. Unless it's something I physically cannot do by myself. Other people just get in my way and are distracting when they want to chit chat. I don't thrive on being socially isolated though.



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07 Dec 2014, 1:54 pm

Abcrone wrote:
If you've ever heard the well known Quote by John Donne "No man is an island" which in part was suggesting to say that Humans do not thrive when isolated from others. (Although the quote means more than that.)

I find that Quote hard to relate to because I often find that I thrive in working on tasks or problems more so when I am isolated from others rather than when I am integrated with them. Do any of you feel the same in some way?


As an aspie, I think that I was born an island.
I was very much as you describe, and did thrive in isolation. I say was because that seems to be changing now, and I've been trying to figure out exactly why.

But, for most of my life other people would create intrusive distraction which caused anxiety and made it harder for me to focus on tasks, especially ones involving a lot of thinking.



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07 Dec 2014, 2:35 pm

Sort of depends on the situation...for some things I find it easiest to just do it myself, like if I am washing dishes or cleaning a bathroom or something I'd just assume do it myself then have someone help. If its something like making multiple trips to haul stuff a group tends to be better....but yeah with some things it seems people can hinder it/slow it down but with other things I would want help. I remember much of the time at school I did not like group projects usually because I just wanted to get the work done and the rest would want to waste time on chit chat, but also was sort of an outcast so it was awkward being forced to interact with people who didn't really want anything to do with me as well.

Generally speaking I do not do well with like social isolation for long periods of time....I do sometimes need time to myself but total isolation does not sound pleasant at all.


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07 Dec 2014, 2:54 pm

I do, but for different reasons to most other folks on here.

When you're on your own, you don't have to worry about getting judged by others.
Then again, it gets very boring being alone.



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07 Dec 2014, 4:29 pm

I'm not sure what's worse for my mood, having no one to talk to or the inevitable semantics arguments, ego posturing, and pointless bickering.



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08 Dec 2014, 12:05 am

downbutnotout wrote:
I'm not sure what's worse for my mood, having no one to talk to or the inevitable semantics arguments, ego posturing, and pointless bickering.



At least with someone there, you can work on making it not inevitable.



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08 Dec 2014, 1:40 am

olympiadis wrote:
downbutnotout wrote:
I'm not sure what's worse for my mood, having no one to talk to or the inevitable semantics arguments, ego posturing, and pointless bickering.


At least with someone there, you can work on making it not inevitable.


Which earns me far less money than my freelance work and far less peace of mind than just playing a video game.



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08 Dec 2014, 2:44 am

Often. Sometimes I need some help, but mostly I do much better without people around to distract me.


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