Perhaps she wants this to be easy? And might be worried it won't be? If you think that's the case you could float things into the conversation about wanting to keep things as easy and pleasant as possible. If she doesn't seem malicious. She may feel some resentment for the work of being trustee. And she may be missing your father quite a bit.
What she said asking you why she should start a relationship seems quite rude. But she could also be frightened or overwhelmed by his loss or if she tried hard before and feels she failed to connect to you.
I would talk to your support people about this and try to keep things light with her, tell her you don't want her to feel pressured and will if she seems decent, maybe even offer that she should let you know if anything you do is bothering her or ask her if she wants a number for one of your support people if anything seems too much. But only if you sense her o be decent but skittish. If you think she's just difficult, keep things businesslike and try to feel prepared for more of the same.
09 Nov 2014, 11:03 pm
