What works in your life?

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What do you do to help others and to help yourself/

I always help other people when I can. I feel like I have no choice. I feel like I must help them just because they need help,

I stay away from others as much as I can. It helps them and me. I don't speak for anyone but myself on that one though. Many can get along just fine with some people. I am too much of an introvert to have sustainable two-way communication for more than a few days. The communication breaks down on both sides and misunderstandings end the cooperation efforts.

Showing my hard-work ethics processes and talents can help in some situations, but the awkward social communication usually leads to strained interactions.

I accept my introversion and also accept that most people are uncomfortable with it. I don't get upset if someone expresses hatred toward me. I do get upset when they deliberately sabotage something I am working on or my peace -- as would anyone. However, I am unable to retaliate. I have to walk a fine line because I am labeled mentally disordered. I am not allowed to express anger outwardly because they will take my freedom away. It has happened before (several times). I won't let them take my freedom from me again, even if I have to suffer alone. The news about all those murderers puts people on edge and punishes people like me because they are afraid of what I MIGHT do. They must not realize that by constantly being mean to me could cause a situation they want to avoid.

I won't be believed that there is a proactive campaign against those with diagnosed mental disorders, but there is -- especially by the GOP American Republicans. They don't want their guns taken from them, so they want to take the freedoms from people with mental disorders so they don't have to suffer their "rights" taken from them.

I do appreciate the positive sides in my life. I am proud of my independence, my educational background, my ingenuity, and willingness to rethink my initial beliefs/impressions. I have accepted there is no such thing as help for me, so am figuring out how to adapt in a hostile community. The burden is on me to help me. The first thing I did was to stop looking for acceptance. I won’t get it because they don’t know how to accept someone who isn’t social. I will no longer fall prey to people pretending to be nice in order to gather information to hurt me with later. It is possible I will shut out someone who was genuinely being nice, but in the near decade I have been independent, I have not met anyone who hasn’t turned out to be a back stabber. They become offended that I don’t want to be one of their social contacts and decide to stop being nice. I don’t quite understand this, but have to just accept it will always be true in order to protect myself.

These strategies that involve isolation are not a recommendation to anyone else; they are just what I have to do in order to function within the so-called dysfunction. I am thankful for what I do have (freedom mostly), because my life could be a lot worse. If I were born in an oppressed society, I might have been killed already. I have gone through near death experiences, but I’m not dead yet. I try to focus on the positives, but have to be vigilant of the negatives. Protecting and liking myself are priorities. I have to be my own best friend; many don’t even have that. I am lucky.

What works for me in my life (when I practice them):
Exercise
Patience
Humility
Diligence
The solid eight (hours of sleep)
Scheduling
Prayer

What I try to do for others:
Accept
Respect
Cheerful in serving at my job (in which I interact with the public)
If someone is brusk with me, I try not to get all offended
I give second chances
Prayer

Getting good night sleep.
Eating
Drinking enough water.

1) helping myself
a) i avoid people especially people who have the potential to harm me using verbal tactics they degrade and humiliate me
b) i try to act smart and keep my naiveness hidden for that i read lot of psychology stuff
c) i avoid social interaction because i make social mistakes
d) i keep myself occupied in hobbies, household work etc

2) Helping others
a) Personally i believe a empty vessel cannot serve others it has to be full itself inorder to serve others
I dont think i can do much for others but
b) i work with a NGO teaching slumkids spoken english i try to be nice with them, kind and loving
c) Though hard and difficult i spend time with my kid and try to tolerate his tantrums
d) i try to be diplomatic to all the difficult people in my life my mother, my mother in law and some
nasty relatives and colleagues
e) I try hard to protect nature and animals. I never waste water, never through litter here and there