someone just called me trying to say I blame my autism....

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it's as simple as this: if you have people in your life who don't believe you when you say something or shame you, cut them out or ignore them..

this person who i think is a good friend, just called me out of nowhere and said "i think you blame your autism on your ability to not read and process information, and not go to college." I go: "well, I'm not making these issues up - i genuinely struggle with these things without a choice" and they go "well, you are just being a victim. i think you just want to call yourself an aspie"

so incredibly frustrating.. of course if i could process information in the way it was made to be processed I would. Of course, I'd be enriching my mind with all the classics, and watching all the most incredible cinema but I just can't. Apart of the acceptance and respect towards myself is acceptance of things like this but when people do this to me. It sucks.

Well, if you are solely self-diagnosed, then that person's opinion might be justified; but if instead you have received an official diagnosis, then you are perfectly justified in telling that person to "eat snot and fork off"!

It's a simple lack of understanding of their part.

For them the world is simple, socializing is simple, hearing in a crowded room is simple, understanding double-speek is simple, ect.

It's a lack on their part, understanding that you have challenges doing those things. Not your fault, not something you can fix. And for him to call you out on it is rude and disrespectful.

I would simply ignore him from now on. You don't need friends like that. He's pulling you down and not supporting you. He's a dh, not a friend.

This doesn't sound like a very good friend. It's not their right to judge you, especially if you struggle as much as you say (I'm not saying you don't). Tell that friend that they don't know you and how you act in real life. It's not their damn business how you function. If it was my friend, I'd ditch the son of a b***h. They clearly aren't doing a very good job of supporting you.