Do You Obsess Over Your Mistakes?

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I find I have a tendency to turn mistakes I have made over and over in my head, getting more and more upset and stressed about them, especially mistakes in terms of social interaction. It can be so tiring. Tonight's example is that I played a game of Chess with someone for the first time in many, many years and lost, and I have been constantly thinking about it since, thinking about the stupid mistake I made in the game at a point at which I could have won, and thinking that I must be less intelligent than I thought if I could not win the game. It is driving me nuts.

So, do you tend to analyse and obsess your mistakes a lot ?

Yes, and to an unhealthy extent.I also obsess over personal insults.For instance someone on Facebook called me a socially ret*d idiot about two weeks ago and am just now letting it go.I tried to figure out what I said to deserve such a comment and came to the conclusion it wasn't my fault.I have noticed that people with Aspergers can piss people off without even trying to.

Yep, I have noticed that too.
Also a tendency in myself to hang onto negative things said to me, more than positive.
It is a real art, trying to distract myself enough to not have silent moments in which to brood and obsess.

Yes I do both of these. And in general I obsess over anything other people say/do that I don't understand, or anything that didn't go smoothly, and try to figure out why it went wrong.

Even when I make a very small mistake (like forgetting to say "thank you" over some trivial thing) I keep thinking about it over and over again.

This probably sounds very materialistic, but I tend to obsess mostly about damaging objects accidentally. Just about anything. Even when opening boxes and stuff. But I also obsess over mistakes I've made involving people. I had to euthanize my dog, Lady, on October 1st. I keep going over all the things I could have done better for her.

I obsess over those things too. A little ding or scratch on anything, no matter how inexpensive or trivial. Obsess over losing something, likewise no matter how trivial the item was, going over and over in my mind what could have happened to it. Wondering what I could have done different with various people or could have done for pets that died.

I do so pretty badly for a while, but then I lose that train of thought. Sometimes I'll be asked how I'm doing over a mistake I was beating myself up over a week ago, and I'll have trouble at first knowing what they're talking about. Maybe I just end up repressing stuff.

I used to before my OCD was treated.

Yes. This is me to a "T".

I don't make mitsakes.

I used to but have since learned that mistakes are the key to learning and growing so I see them as a positive lesson that will help me improve.

I wish I could do that.

No matter how many times I learn that I learn from mistakes, it doesn't register in my brain and I still get pissed off the next time.

Relentlessly. During all of my school years before high school I would not turn in assignments I felt weren't perfect, and bad things I did, careless mistakes I made, social missteps and miscues, etc. would replay in my head enough for me to lose a good deal of sleep. It's a compulsion that I still have a hard time controlling.

Yes, all the time.

I obsess over the mistakes of others, churning them in my head, analyzing them from every conceivable angle, and exploiting them to my advantage. Bwahaha.

I do this. I obsess over small mistakes literally for decades. It makes me reluctant to enter situations where there is a risk of me making a mistake because if I make one I know how long the pain of it will be with me.

It is only with my recent diagnosis that I have begun to learn that not everything is my fault, that I "should have known better".