Enough is Enough

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Hello,

I will be posting this following document I wrote to a new agency who might offer me new living situations. I would really like feedback and the Aspie who I lived with before had these exact issues. Although I lost many opportunities in independence, I am very glad I left that house. Without further ado, here is the document:

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Enough is Enough -

When living with a roommate who has Aspergers, I can deal with two or three bothering issues, but not as much somebody who:

1. Walks around the house with repetitive music playing on his phone and often forgets to turn it off before dinner

2. After dinner, forgets to put food back in the fridge but still reminds you to put food in the fridge the next day

3. Grabs your friend during the middle of an important conversation without asking and shows off his new game system

4. Barges into your private business by A: walking into your room without asking or B: eavesdropping anything when his name is mentioned

5. Acts like a parent by constantly texting or calling you, asking where you are and what you are doing…even when you tell him before

6. Likes to make sexual movements (like air humping) and disgusting noises (like moaning) thinking he is funny

7. Constantly buy three extra tacos to take home during your planned social outings…even when you reminded him not to

8. Cancels scheduled events without an hours notice

9. Still doesn’t fully do his chores after promising he would the week before

10. Sleeps and snores on the living room couch (not wanting to go to his bedroom) during the days when I have friends over

11. Never lets go of his Mom by depending on her for every little issue he has

12. Hates change/challenges to the point where he never wants to improve his lifestyle

I can see how the rest could be annoying, but these ones I don't understand why they bother you

It doesn't particularly look like Aspie behaviour to me, beyond a bit of mind-blindness. Perhaps he was just a jerk who also happened to be an Aspie?

Well OP you did well to quote the old therapeutic saw that "feelings are not facts", as you are venting your feelings and presenting them as facts about all people on the ASD spectrum (it's called generalising from a single cause!).

I am tired of these threads which start just like yours - you are angry about a personal situation in your life and it feels good to smear everyone on the spectrum. Elkclan already does it quite regularly, because her husband annoys her. You treat WP like a rubbish dump to dump your rubbish.

OP I do commend you for acting and getting out of a situation that was not right for you. Wish your counterpart would do the same some time soon, and stop telling us that we all lack empathy etc etc ad nauseum.

Some of those things would bother me too - but I don't see most of them as Asperger traits.

I see no clear evidence that he has Aspergers.

He sounds like every slacker I've ever known.

His friends and family seem to have enabled him or don't care enough to call him out.

I definitely wouldn't consider him an Aspie or disabled.

I think you should have a serious talk with him and his parents.
Maybe include his friends too.

I like all the feedback. I am sorry if this is too rude/tough to post. I posted it in another Aspie group and I almost got banned. I will remove it soon. I tried to confront him, but I got in trouble. His parents picked on me. Anyways, I am glad it's all over.