I'm apsergers in high school and I need help

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my name is Will i'm 17 and I have aspergers syndrome and I need help. First off I'm not feeling emotionally well, I never had a girlfriend and I have not had my first kiss yet, everytime I get to know a girl she rejects me every time, I'm in my Jounior year and I fear I will not go to prom with any of my friends (at least the 3 I have now) 99% of my friends have girlfriends so I shut them out of my life because I won't be a third wheel to their crap and I contantly get teased (playfully) for not having one and deep down I'm like what the hell do you want me to do I get rejected every f###ing time. I have not won a single award in my life, I'm currently in this class where you enter segments and their put on TV and a eligable for awards and none of my pieces are eligable for any awards, the only awards I do have is a 3rd place science club medal I got in elementary school, a perefect attendence award when I was in elementary also, and a 3rd place in pinewood derby back when I was in scouts, and that's all I have when it comes to awards and so far I've achieved nothing. Plus our school does talent shows (obviously) and for 3 years in a row I don't make it, what I try to do was stand up comedy but the judges (which is different each year) reject me, to me I say f##k them, how dare them, how dare anyone reject me when it comes to the talent show, my jokes were family friendly and for every one, and all they have in the the talent show are just a bunch of fa***ts who sing and dance that's it nothing else. When it comes to my personal life I have a job at our local video store called vintage stock, I am a comic book fan, I collect transformers, I love doctor who, I colllect and make my own doctor who merchandise (I created a cyberman head out of silver duct tape and cardboard and my own sontaran costume) and an avid movie goer (I manly just go out with family beacuse of barely any friends and no girfriend crap) and when I grow up I want to write and direct my own films for warner bros. and hopefully (my dream is to direct and possibly write my own comic book/superhero movie fo DC entertainment) when I leave high school, but for right now I don't feel special and I am a very deppressed person and please people with aspergers and has a girlfriend or wife please only answer this I don't want single aspergers answering this question because you don't know what I go through

As a married Aspie, I don't feel any more qualified than any other Aspie in giving advice, but here goes.

You sound too desperate to me in finding a girlfriend. If women feel too much pressure in your presence they are likely to back off and look for someone else. So ease off a bit and try to relax in front of them and express interest in what they do rather than treat them as an object you can show off at the Prom. If there are even numbers of girls and guys at your school then the maths says that there must be one girl out there who you can take to the Prom. So assuming all the desirable girls are gone before you get a chance to ask anybody, just go up to the quietest, least attractive girl at the school and drum up a conversation about anything at all and get her to talk a bit. Pretend that you care about whatever she says and then near the end of the conversation, say "By the way, I don't have anyone to take to the Prom with me. Would you be interested in being my date for the Prom". If she says no, thank her and then move onto the next girl. Keep trying until someone says yes and don't leave it too late, after which all the girls will be accounted for.

Had my first kiss when i was 18, lost my virginity at 19. I guess that is pretty late by today's standard. Had a few woman in bed and a few short lasted relationships which ended quite fast and badly. I guess i really vibrate on a different frequency than NT's

On a serious note, i prefer to stay single. Saves me the heartaches and self hatred. Everytime a relationship ends due to my own limitations, it makes me wanna pick up a knife and cut the autism part out of my brain. It can be really miserable sometimes, friendships and relationships not lasting longer than a few weeks or months, i know how you feel.