Hello friends. I've not yet "officially" been diagnosed with aspergers but I am definitely on the spectrum and seeing a therapist/specialist. I tend to hyper focus. I went through a phase of playing poker. I then started studying body language for over a year and completely forgot about poker. I read everything I could. I work at a gas station and deal with people all day. I can now read people very well most of the time. I can now even do small talk very well. I'm even told I'm very liked.
I am having problems with body language directed towards me. I can tell when two people are talking what they are expressing through body language. I'm told I seem normal and I don't think anyone knows. My coworkers point out when girls are flirting with me and I realize I am completely oblivious to this. I've gone out with friends and noticed the same thing. I guess I never noticed this because I'm usually lost in thought. The flirting thing is not a confidence thing. I would reciprocate I'm just clueless.
I only know when a girl likes me because she's throwing herself at me. I'm not bragging just pointing out how oblivious I am. I have difficulty knowing where I stand with people in general. I don't know when they are my "friends". I think people like me because I'm friendly, very funny and learned to show interest in people's lives. I try to be funny because it's easier to know what people are thinking when they are laughing and it comes natural to me. I also over compensate since I don't know where I stand. Again, not sure? This is based on what people tell me. I really have no idea. All my information is based on what people tell me.
At this point I don't even know what I'm asking. Advise? Thoughts? Can anyone relate? Help.
Thank you in advance.
03 Feb 2015, 3:05 pm
