btbnnyr wrote:
I'm trying to think if I have obsessive thoughts, but I don't think I have a lot of obsessive thoughts.
I have obsession in one thing only, it dominates most of my thoughts and behaviors, but I can switch from away it at will knowing that I can return after the distraction is over, I don't need to switch much though, there are not many distractions from it in my life.
If the number of distractions you have is low, you are lucky, and your special interest will keep you sane.
If the number of distractions gets to the point where you feel that you don't have enough time for your special interest, it is time to retract from the toxic social context.
btbnnyr wrote:
I think my mother has truly obsessive thoughts, but lacks the one single obsession pattern of behavior that I have. She obsesses over things and seems unable to switch off those thoughts for long periods.
This seems to support what I was postulating about the positive if not essential role of special interests that can be put to productive use. If there is no special interest, other obsessive thoughts may fill the void. Similarly, if the special interest is not productive or not socially acceptable, the result can be a miserable existence.