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12 Feb 2015, 1:01 pm

There is a period of time now where I don't want to do anything and it takes everything I have to get something done. I am on medication for years now and lately I have been wanting to sleep and not do much. Is anyone else going through this now too?



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12 Feb 2015, 1:12 pm

Yes, I've been getting like that a lot lately. I just want to be snuggled up under the covers in bed, either watching stuff on Youtube or a DVD, or sleeping. I just have this urge to do this a lot, and I feel guilty because I know that there are things that need to be done, like cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc. I think the cold weather makes it hard to get motivated, because at my boyfriend's apartment we don't have heating on during the day, to save money on gas, so as soon as I get out of bed the cold just hits me and I lose all motivation. Then I jump back into bed where it's all warm and comfortable.

Also I feel so unhappy in my job, and I want to leave there so that I can move in with my boyfriend permanently, but I can't until I have another job nearer to where my boyfriend lives. I think all the stress and depression of being stuck in a job I don't like also makes me want to just sleep (when not socialising), so that I don't have to think about it.


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12 Feb 2015, 8:16 pm

My girlfriend has that problem but some of it is because she has depression & anxiety. I do my best to help out & to encourage her.


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13 Feb 2015, 12:03 am

I've gone through it.

Lately I've felt lazy for not getting out and running much, or reading books on my reading list.

But I had a cold and have been house sitting.. so spent my off work time online w/ movies playing on the tv in the background for several days.

Definitely feel a bit lazy for it.. as it doesn't advance me towards my goals. Sometimes I wish I were a bit more of a self-started than I am so I'd be more productive in my downtime all the time vs. sometimes. Overall I'm more productive than I used to be, so whatever.

I've been thinking about doing some side work, but have been a bit lazy about seeking any... then a few days ago I get a text message with an inquiry as to whether I can do such and such type of work & asking if I'd take on the contract. Why yes, in fact I've done it before.. sign me up! Loading my car with tools this evening to get started on some renovation work this weekend when my client takes possession of his condo. Boom! Things happen for a reason, over my cold, and an opportunity to break the cycle of laziness presents itself w/ an ideal sized contract & a little extra money on the side for me. 8)

Maybe something will come along that spurs you into motion & gets you doing something?


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13 Feb 2015, 12:19 am

I'm in that state right now, I wouldn't call it being lazy. Rather severe lack of motivation because of a bleak outlook on life. Nothing is really fun anymore. If I could just freeze time forever while being warm and tired in bed I would.



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13 Feb 2015, 4:31 am

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13 Feb 2015, 8:50 am

I'm finding it difficult to stay motivated these days. Being retired, there's nobody to force me to work any more. And it's winter, it's dark and cold and the days are short. I always thought humans would hibernate if they were allowed to.

There are other reasons too. My experience of special interests is that I often just end up wasting lots of time trying to get a perfect result (impossible!) using inefficient methods to create something that isn't particularly worth having, so I've developed quite a reluctance to indulge in special interests. So there aren't many activities left that are very interesting to me.

I also know that my executive functioning is impaired - I can't organise myself for some tasks, planning doesn't work very well for me. My home is strewn with materials from too many open projects. Why start more projects and add to the clutter? It's not as if they're likely to reach a conclusion and make me happy. I can always stick to computer-based projects, which tend not to generate much physical clutter, but even my hard drives are desperately in need of organising, and I'm concerned about the amount of time I spend glued to a computer screen, it can't be healthy.

I heard that after the abolition of slavery, the ex-slaves typically retained a very negative view of working. Sometimes I think something similar happened to me - all those years of having to do horrible stuff for other people regardless of my own feelings may have put me off any kind of work.

None of this would matter if I didn't feel concerned about wasting my life. I'd love to be shamelessly bone idle, but it seems I've been programmed with a work ethic that nags me. Why can't I be content to just eat, drink, and slob about, to just live and die without this insane urge to somehow improve myself?



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13 Feb 2015, 9:20 am

I feel like this and tend to do every year this time. Having the heating on all the time is expensive, but if I am cold all I want to do is go to sleep or stay under the duvet which is impossible as I am a single parent to two kids and I work. So instead I just drag myself through life this time of year. I think I'm finding it particularly hard this year as it is much colder here in the UK than last year :(



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13 Feb 2015, 12:26 pm

I've also been having this problem. It doesn't help that I just now figured out a lot of it is due to being dehydrated. D: I just don't feel in the mood to do much anymore and can't get myself to do anything. It's not so much that I sleep all day instead or anything though... I just don't want to do very much, at least not the things that require a lot of my effort. X_x


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13 Feb 2015, 2:47 pm

I'm a very lazy person all the time



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13 Feb 2015, 3:00 pm

I really think it sounds like cold weather syndrome! Which is one I discovered ... seriously it is the time of the year when it is much more warm and comfortable in bed. I never sleep until 7am but I have been recently. If you make yourself go out once a day for a short walk, it does help. If you are working and hate it then it is worse this time of year. I feel sure things will improve when there is a bit more sunshine. Btw, I am from SE UK and I am having a similar problem!



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13 Feb 2015, 5:27 pm

On the seasonal depression note, I take vitamin D every day along with the rest of my vitamins/minerals & probiotics - all of which help. I actually notice a difference in energy if I don't take my probiotics. They're almost like a stimulant ie caffeine, but.. different. Smoother/better.

No time to be lazy today! Laundry, dishes, cleanup a bit, pack my stuff to move most of it back home from house sitting, a couple stores to hit up, then off to work for 6pm-1am, back to house sitting one last night, then load tools in my car and head off to start a renovation contract tomorrow.

Sometimes not being lazy is as simple as scheduling a really tight bunch of things to do that allows you no time to piss around. Then you just do it, Parkinson's Law style. "Work expands to fill the time allotted" - give yourself less time to get things done in and you still manage to do them.. give yourself a lot of time and you'll stretch the work out all day.


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15 Feb 2015, 4:28 am

I totally agree with the fact that work expands to fill the allotted. Maybe that has been my problem, I have ended up with sundays free which I didn't used to have. In a few weeks when the weather is better here in the UK I will be down the allotment more so I suppose then I will feel better because my time will be filled :)



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15 Feb 2015, 4:33 am

Very much so



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15 Feb 2015, 9:39 am

I'm a lazy son of a gun....and I will expend great effort to prove this is so



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15 Feb 2015, 11:26 am

I certainly lack motivation. It's mostly because I feel hopeless. If I do something, I want it to be done perfectly. That attitude makes everything look too daunting and I end up not doing anything at all. I guess you could call it laziness although I'm internally exhausted just to think about doing things.

I haven't vacuumed/tidied up my place for 5 years due to "laziness" (hopelessness). I can't believe I'm living surrounded by these disgusting piles of rubbish. Living like this makes me even lazier.