List EVERYTHING That's "Wrong" With You

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So I could tell you all that I have Aspergers, right? But even with a lengthy description of what it is, it doesn't explain everything - and I'm curious to know if the effects are different from one person to the next. So for this thread, my challenge for you is this - List everything you possibly can that relates your disability - even if it's something you're ashamed of. By sharing it, you can not only acknowledge that it exists, but see if other people do the same thing, too. In the end, my hope is that it will help you and me understand ourselves better. I'll start.

My Diagnosis: ADHD, Aspergers

NOTE: These are in no particular order, and I'm refusing to let the OCD in me try to arrange them)

My knowledge of Star Trek is completely unnatural. It's not just major plot points. I know every episode of every series by season/eipsode#/episode title. I know all the background details. I've done presentation in college about how a transporter works, using all the correct technobabble. I even run an online, text-based role-playing group where we write our own stories within the Star Trek universe. Yes, I own a uniform (and rank pips. And a phaser). No, I can't speak Klingon - but only because I'm terrible with languages.

If you don't sit down and explain to me that I'm doing something wrong, I don't know I'm doing something wrong. For example, someone had to sit down an explain to me once that you have to wear deodorant, or you smell bad. To "normal" people, this is common sense. But I never had a reason to think this thought until someone sat me down and told me.

My motivation sucks, and is usually attached to my mood. I got kicked out of Ohio State University because I would sign up for a class, find it WAY complicated, and choose not to go. My logic was, "Oh, well. I'll just try again next semester." Apparently, three semesters are too many.

Also, semi-related to above, I procrastinate a lot. My logic is, "If it doesn't need to be done RIGHT NOW, then I don't need to be worrying about it." As a result, exam season is a b***h, because not only are you studying for all the exams you need to pass, but there's like six papers due all on the same day (Though, oddly enough, I get every paper in and pass with flying colors - is that normal? LMAO)

I have a very small circle of friends, and I pick and choose those friends very carefully.

I have a problem with swearing in public, as you might have noticed.

I have a problem with asserting myself. Most cases, I would rather say nothing at all than say something that will start a confrontation.

I talk to myself, or no one at all. Does anybody else do that? It usually happens when I'm dealing with a stressful situation. Like, if I know I might have an argument with someone tomorrow, I plan out any and all possible responses and reactions to anything they could possibly say ahead of time. And suddenly, I'm arguing with nobody out loud (as if the imaginary argument is actually happening), and I'll do this for like twenty minutes before I realize I'm doing it. And sometimes, this happens out in public, which makes people look at you like you're insane. The worst part is - half of these arguments I'm afraid of never actually take place. It's weird.

I'm extremely competitive. I talk a lot of trash when I win, and I get really angry when I lose. My friends think my reactions when I lose are hilarious, so often times they gang up on me just to see me explode. They say it's all in good fun, but I can't help but think that, deep down inside, they're picking on me.

Every once in awhile (as in - these are very RARE occasions), the frustration takes it's toll, and I throw the worst temper tantrums ever known to mankind. And the worst part? It's usually over dumb things. Like, I can't tell you how many laptops and gameboys I've broken simply because I lost. Like, I know I can do this correctly. I know I can kill that Pokemon. I know I can kill that boss. I KNOW HOW TO DO IT. But for some reason, no matter what I do, the computer does something completely ridiculous to kick my ass. And I throw it. Or I punch it. And lo and behold, it's broken. Eventually, I started losing so many electronics that my tantrums transitioned from breaking things to doing everything in my power NOT to break things. I think I've seen a few people on here confessing to biting themselves out of frustration. Totally do that. It's either that, or I have to shell out money for a new laptop.

My personal hygiene sucks. Don't ask how often I shower or brush my teeth. Just don't.

People say I dress weird. I actually had a girl turn me down for a date one time because of it. "You wear your socks so high. It looks ridiculous." REALLY? I'm the nicest, most loyal dude on the planet, and you're going on about SOCKS?

Nothing on this earth gives me more social anxiety than a girl that I have a crush on. And the worst part is, a girl doesn't have to do anything in order to make me like them. I'm a sucker for a pretty face. Half the time, I can't even bring myself to say hello. And the other half, the girl is either taken, a lesbian, asexual, or they friendzone me. In the past, I've told myself, "I'd rather have them as a friend than not have them at all," but I'm starting to think this is a lie. Keeping them as a friend just builds up false hope, and always ends in heartbreak. And since we're on the subject, I get my heart broken a lot.

I don't necessarily consider this a "wrong" thing, but I suck at lying and/or keeping secrets. I just don't know how to do that. For example, my best friend is a bit of a player, and when his current relationship is on the rocks, he doesn't dump the girl before finding a new one. Can't tell you how many times I've gotten him in trouble because I let secrets like that slip. He'll get angry about it, and we'll have a big fight. Eventually, I was like, "Listen. You don't want to get in trouble? You have two choices: A) Don't let me find out that you're cheating; or B) Don't cheat to begin with." Now, my best friend and I have been bets friends for 11 years, so no matter what we fight about, everything is fine in the morning. But everybody else... Like, I have a friend who is a veteran - two tours in Iraq. I warned him that I wasn't good at keeping secrets, and when I found out he cheated on his wife, he flipped his lid over it. And I said, "If you're so worried about getting caught, maybe you shouldn't have cheated to begin with." It's amazing how much people don't appreciate this kind of honesty. I'm not judging you, dude. I'm using cold, hard logic to find a solution to your problem.

I speak in movie, TV show, and music references. Perfect Example: I was in Physics class yesterday, and we were using a computer to record out data and perform calculations for us. But the teacher didn't know how to use the software. So we're sitting here for like an hour watching him mess with it. Someone made a joke along the lines of, "Three hours later..." to which my mind immediately jumped to Spongebob Squarepants, causing me to blurt out, "So much later that the old narrator quit, and they had to hire a new one." Now, everyone where I live has kids (EVERYONE), so they got the joke. But more often then not, people don't get my jokes at all. Like if you're talking about huge purse you just bought that has all this space, and I notice that your purse is blue, I might utter something like, "It's bigger on the inside!" Nothing but crickets.

Speaking of TV shows, if I get hooked on a television show, you probably won't hear from me over the next few weeks until I finish it. Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood was a perfect example. Every single episode ended in that completely amazing and yet insulting cliffhanger - an ending so awesome and ambiguous that you have no choice but to watch the next one, because you can't NOT know what happens next. This creates problems for me because, like, it's 6:43 AM and I'm still like, "Nope. Keep going. I'll sleep when I'm dead."

It takes a special (and quite honestly, evil) kind of person to understand my humor sometimes. If you've ever played Cards Against Humanity, then you know exactly what I'm talking about. I tend to say whatever comes off of my brain without thinking, and sometimes it's funny, and sometimes it's downright offensive. And I don't always have time to process which is which before I say it. Perfect example: A girl I knew just had a kid. We were talking one night, and she was complaining that the baby wouldn't stop crying. So without thinking, I said the funniest thing that came off the top of my head: "Put a pillow over his face." She got so angry, she wouldn't talk to me for like two weeks.

Finally, my hearing isn't that good, so I have a REALLY hard time controlling the volume of my voice. Especially when I get excited.

There's probably more, but this is everything I can think of offhand. What about you? How long is your list? It is the exact same as mine, or do you do things that are completely different? Talk about it. Be honest. And don't be ashamed.