Do people think you're gay?

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When you're not?

Over the years I've had people make rude comments such as, "Are you gay or something?"
Or they see me out with my partner and comment later (kind of accusingly), "I always thought you were gay." As though I've been misleading them the entire time.
Does this happen to anyone else?

Not that I care, I just find it really odd. Odd, I suppose, that (a) they're even thinking of my sexual orientation and (b) that they categorise me without any evidence and(c) feel the need to bring it to my attention. I mean, it's not like I'm hitting on anyone so why do they make this assumption?

I'm wondering if it's due to my autism. I don't have that whole competitive gender stereotype thing going, which may make it seem like I'm batting for the other team. I'm a bit different so they automatically think GAY! What do you think?

I used to have trouble finding a girlfriend when I was a teenager.

When I was 19, my father asked me, point blank, "Are you gay?" It wasn't even a judgement. He was just curious.

I usually get accused of being on E, not quite the same but still, wtf?
My step brother is also autistic and he gets hit on by gay men a lot...

I think it's because you treat both sexes the same, people expect you to be gender-biased and assume you are gay when you're not.

I was asked in high school if I was a lesbian.

Yes, actually. It's really weird.

To be clear, I don't think there's anything wrong with being a lesbian, or being gay, bi, ace, whatever.

But people assume I'm a lesbian or bi, and I've been outright asked if I'm lesbian or bi.

No idea why they do this. I wear pink and female footwear and thank guys when they open doors for me and all that. I'm short, I'm a soprano, and so on.

So that's why I think it's really odd when I get asked as often as I do. It's not even interested girls who ask this.

a colleague and friend of mine is very athletic and muscular and he is hit on everywhere he goes by gay men...even in bathrooms....

poor guy

he can have his kid in one arm and be holding hands with HIS WIFE and they still hit on him

crazy, hey?

When we lived in an area with a high concentration of homosexuals, I got hit on by a few females. Otherwise, not that I'm aware of.

I thought my husband (who has AS) was gay for the first 3-4 months that I knew him. I was so excited when I found out he wasn't!
ETA: I was thinking about his sexual orientation because I thought he was super cute! I think part of his "gay appearance" is how he dresses, another part is probably that he is just a bit "different" in some way and I couldn't quite place what it was- maybe it is that giving off that vibe for you too. But what really made me think it was I asked him he was taking a girl to some dance or something and his response indicated that it was a ridiculous suggestion ( he laughed and said "NO!") and I thought a cute guy like him wouldn't find that ridiculous- so he must be taking another guy.

Yasssss

This was my problem in high school since I didnt have much of a dating life. One guy said he thought I was a lesbian and said something was off about me.

I sure hope so! A girl can dream...

I hate all the stupid stereotypes. My brother is a good cook, isn't interested in sports, and is highly into the arts. And he's been married to my SIL for about two decades now.

Sometimes I wonder if people do or don't think that I'm homosexual, especially when I actually had to live with people. I got along well with most men because I seemed better at relating to them, was not highly interested in fashion, dresses, or makeup, and liked to play video games. But since my diagnosis I learned this isn't unusual for female aspies. Personally, I think I'm asexual. If I die a virgin, so what? And I hate how people think you have something horribly wrong with you, although it doesn't get as much publicity as being gay.

The other day I told a guy I hardly ever wear makeup except for Halloween and wondered deep inside what he thought of that.

No, I'm quite feminine in appearance, so most people don't think I'm a lesbian. Which is unfortunate, considering I am one.

I don't think people do. Most people get the impression that I'm not interested in relationships, which is true as I identify as asexual.

I sincerely doubt it, but I suppose it's possible. However, my friend once straight up asked me if I was asexual probably due to general introversion I guess. I'm not asexual.

Yes, it has happened a lot.

When you're not running all of the hive-mind software people pick up on it that you're different.

No. Everyone assumes I'm straight. But I'm gay.

As for ASD traits being perceived as gay.. yeah, I can see that. Timid body language, the way many with AS tend to grasp objects in their hands with a "limp" wrist, the bit of a gait to your step when you walk, being non-competitive & I'm sure many other factors.

I can definitely see how people picking up on a bunch of different quirks and realizing someone is different might assume gay, especially since most NT people don't have a clue what ASD traits are.

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Someone in class once thought me and my friend of the same gender had a romantic relationship and kept calling us 'OTP'.