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Is it normal for people with Mild Aspergers, especially men, to not care about dating?

As in not seeing the big deal or not having enough of a sex drive to pursue it?

If you conceptualise this characteristic on a bell curve, then of course there will be a small proportion of people at each 'tail' of the curve (people with no interest at one end and very high interest at the other tail, most in the middle sections).

Normal is a setting on a washing machine...

Yes, I believe it's normal for people with mild Asperger's to not care about dating. I also believe that in every group for people of all types, there will be some that just don't care to date, not only for us on the Autism Spectrum.

When I was growing up, especially when I was a teenager, I was into the whole thing of going out with the opposite gender. However, with my Asperger's Syndrome, it has been impossible to get any kind of date, for me at least. I do not care anymore about dating or having friends since I've practically been ignored and rejected constantly by my peers, all because I do not understand jokes and social cues.

I don't think it's very unusual. Probably there are more people (men) looking for a relationship than not but I have seen several posts here on WP saying they are not interested in dating.

I myself am not particularly interested. It sounds like too much hassle. I'm perfectly happy to be single.

Do you want sex but not want the hassle of dating, or do you not actually want sex?

Because if it's the latter, you might be asexual. Which seems to be more common in AS than in the general population.

I'm 64 and at some point one gives up hope...

I think it's very normal to lack interest in a great many types of behaviors that are pressure-driven by group dynamics.

When I was a kid, watching the TV series "Happy Days" was how I learned that dating was an important thing for gaining social status. Otherwise, I doubt I would have came up with anything like that on my own.

Yeah. Kinda late now.

I already knew that.

If nothing happens for me within the next year I'm just going to skip over it.

Your condition CONTROLS you when it comes to Sex Life/Dating anyways so there's no real point in trying to fight it. Just ride with it.

If I don't have any "go" moment in my mind I guess I don't care about sex enough.

What else does AS rob you of. let's see.

Having different interests which is a f****n BIG one if you want to connect with others.

I think AS also causes weakened muscle tone. The "skinny autistic kid" isn't really a stereotype. There's something more to it. I'm about 6ft and 135lb. Stick thin. Near anorexic.

For many years, I had no interest in dating. At the time, I figured that it was not for me (plus those hormones that get released in most people in their teens didn't happen to me). Now that I'm a bit older, I feel that I need to find someone to settle down and share life with, and possibly raise a family. There is no physical drive - only psychological.

Unfortunately, since I'm not "wired" for dating, I have yet to land a first date. There are times when I suspect someone might be interested in me, but I have no idea how to respond.

Yah I know a couple of aspie guys who aren't really interested in dating. Like I asked this one guy if he wanted a gf but he said he's not interested in dating. This isn't me though, I don't think there will ever be a time where i'm NOT interested in girls. Of course being an aspie guy doesn't really mix well with the opposite sex so i'm still working on my 'smooth-talking' skillz.

I'm thinking about buying a gf at walmart. They're only $29.95 last time I checked.

I had no interests in romantic relationships till I got close to a girl at 20 who told me she liked me. Before that I had so many problems I just wanted others to leave me alone.