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in light of my recent porn addiction and obsessive coding, I have given my mother my computer and am limiting myself to my iPad for basic use and my phone when out. I also gave her my music player so it will be harder to embarrass myself by stimming in public. Good choice?

Without knowing the extent of your porn addiction and how much the obsessive coding got in the way, I won't comment.

I do wonder about limiting stimming... Does the embarrassment outweigh the benefits? I use some smaller stims in public to help me manage... Is that what stimming does for you?

Not if you want to be a good programmer. Obsessiveness is a requirement.

Maybe you could install some kind of nanny software to deal with the porn addiction.

How about putting the computer in the family room or kitchen - so you can carry on with your coding but be disinclined to look at porn.

All addictions have a root cause.

Your porn addiction is not about porn.

Most ppl who give up an addiction merely replace with another.

Do you understand the reason why you dose yourself with porn?

What is the pain or lack that is at the source of the behavior?

I Do get addicted to everything, not just that.

I'm really the same way. When I find something I enjoy, I do it over and over and over and over again until I stop enjoying it... Which takes a while...

If you have an alternative, then yes. It's not like you can just give something up and expect life to go on as normal if you claim to be 'addicted' to it.