Envy of people who go to clubs only because their friends go

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I remember some other people who stay at home like me who will telling me that they only go to a party somewhere, a pub or a club only because their friends go to them whereas I have few friends and some of those few don't do that stuff because some have autism more severe than me and unable to socialise with other people.

I've never had friends that are into clubbing, because most of my friends are neurodiverse, and the ones that are NTs have outgrown the party years because they are older.

It is very rare to meet an NT (not neurodiverse) who has never been clubbing or got drunk before in their lives. If you do meet an NT that has never done partying, their reasons are like "I have no money", "I am/was in a controlling relationship", "I had children early", "I work long hours at weekends". But never "I don't go/never been clubbing because it just doesn't interest me".
And clubs aren't really a place to go to on your own.

To be honest I wish clubbing hadn't been invented. At least then people like us wouldn't feel so isolated among our NT peers.

I went clubbing with flat mates at uni a few times: to be honest it’s one of the most aspie unfriendly environments I’ve ever been in... no possibility of escape from sensory overload that doesn’t involve walking home alone.
And full of drunk, horny, aggressive young humans.

I most sincerely do not recommend.

Pubs of the type that do ale and have beer gardens are much less unpleasant environments though: usually less noisy, there’s an outside you can go to away from it all for a few minutes without actually leaving, and the clientele tend to be less hassle in my experience.