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Kezzstar
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21 Mar 2007, 1:43 am

Ever had a bad moment when you just wished "Why can't I be normal for once???"

Sometimes I wish "Just one day, I wish I could be normal for just one day."

Of course, that would then give me licence to bag normalness.....

It'd just be nice to go shopping without either hiding behind Mum or trying to keep my head down and not be noticed cos I'm scared. It'd be nice to stop my left hand shaking/flicking, it'd be nice to pick up social cues at the right moment and not say something stupid.

Then it's so cool being me, being the insane one who isn't bound by the rules of society. It's cool to have my imaginary friends. I love playing the saxophone, and having my author's eye.

Anyone else like this?



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21 Mar 2007, 1:46 am

I dont recall wanting to be normal...I just wanted to be liked for who I was(of course,that is pretty normal)<---irony?


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21 Mar 2007, 1:51 am

krex wrote:
I dont recall wanting to be normal...I just wanted to be liked for who I was(of course,that is pretty normal)<---irony?


Or we could get rid of most of the normal people.



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21 Mar 2007, 1:52 am

Most people automatically think I'm normal by the way I look I suppose (got voted best dressed in twelth grade!). Some people think I'm really weird, but only bullies whom typically have ADHD. Trust me, I know.



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21 Mar 2007, 1:58 am

The idea of a shallow existence is only really offensive to people that aren't living that way.



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21 Mar 2007, 2:04 am

Yeah.. I wish it alot!! I would like to be able to relax and have fun like everyone else..Feel not so isolated from everyone..Be able to enjoy stuff..like live music without this feeling of detachment get....
I don't mind being unique..
It's the way that no matter where I go or what I do there is this bubble I am in that seperates me from all the other people. I would like to be able to hang out and have friends instead of being able to functionally only communicate with one person..



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21 Mar 2007, 3:04 am

Lightning88 wrote:
Most people automatically think I'm normal by the way I look I suppose (got voted best dressed in twelth grade!). Some people think I'm really weird, but only bullies whom typically have ADHD. Trust me, I know.

i hate this how just becoz i copy what i see in magazines ppl assume if im normal on the outside im normal on the in
it makes me feel like wearing a sack and something really obvious and then ppl will be more tolerant
i hate the whole idea of your not as just badly behaved
that makes me want to be badly behaved and hurt them lol
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21 Mar 2007, 3:08 am

I wouldn't DREAM of being normal! I grew up thinking I was pretty boring, so that made me WANT to be different! (funny isn't it, because I don't have to try so hard!)

I look normal on the outside, so I make myself abnormal by acting abnormal and being spontaneous and stuff!


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21 Mar 2007, 3:09 am

What I am or dead. I mean sure, sometimes I guess - but it's like wishing that they'd just lock me away in an institution. I really don't think that I want it.



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21 Mar 2007, 3:35 am

Kezzstar,

I have passed for normal, just a trick, but they work. It is a lot like talking to a television, as long as you stick to the program, you can fit in, but one thing out of the range and it all falls apart.

My imaginary friends on the other hand can discuss anything in an insightful manner.

Being normal, having a job, going to the university, I did it, but it took years to get back to my education. Self employment paid better, and without the creative, my writing, I am nothing.

I do not mind boring others, but when I bore myself, change has to come. My greatest gifts, those make me happy, and they have to be protected. One day in the world, and I write nothing for a week or two. Everything is flat, no zip, no zest. The real me lives deep within, and has work to do.

When stories flow from my keyboard, I am happy. The rest of the world can feel left out, they are. They exist to read what I write, not to change me.

My best faking skill is to project into the future. I know I pause when asked a question, so I get there first, and by the time they catch up, I am repeating myself. You are out with your Mum, Mrs. Soanso comes toward you, you know what she will say, and have time to create an answer before she asks, people are very predictable. Mostly they like to speak of themselves, so saying Hello, can be followed with how is your, child, dog, cat, health, and they will take it and run with it, just nod a few times and they think you wonderful. Finish with a happy but vauge concern, and off they go.

The problem with aspies is everyone expects social control, and we are a blank, it is mindless, but it can be controled with ease. They do want to be run, just keep them on their own track. It is called lying, and it is expected. Keep truth for your writting. Lying makes them happy, and they will think well of you.

Once you find out how easy they are to run, you will lose your fear. Reherse, then peddle echos. A lot can be learned from watching dogs. They do not know what to expect from strangers, but a "What a cute puppy," gets them every time, that was always a good sound, a few pets and a scratch behind the ears and you have a friend for life. Humans are not nearly as complex, and you don't have to touch them, though a pat on the shoulder works wonders on some. Of course, you should wash your hands as soon as possible.



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21 Mar 2007, 4:02 am

I'm happy now, and I don't need being "normal" if that includes losing my special abilities (good memory, knowledge about samurais and swords, . . .)



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21 Mar 2007, 9:05 am

I wish I was normal whenever I do something stupid. Otherwise, I am pretty competent in my life. I do well at work and can retain a great volume of factual information.



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21 Mar 2007, 9:43 am

ya. I often wish I were "normal". And to say "Well, what is normal...anyway" is a COP-OUT. Normal is what I'm not. Normal is what my relationships are not. Normal is what my apartment DOSEN'T look like. Normal has no place in any part of my life.

And sometimes I wish I were someone else. Someone who can go home and not even give a thought about that "wierd lady". It hurts living inside my skin. Hurts because there is no escape. There is no "clocking out". No vacation. No waiting for it to leave or "next customer, please."


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21 Mar 2007, 10:02 am

Kezzstar wrote:
Ever had a bad moment when you just wished "Why can't I be normal for once???"


Yes, but I think even "normal", or "neurotypical" people have as well.



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21 Mar 2007, 11:00 am

I spent a lot of my teens and indeed until recently saying I wished I could just be normal, as quite frankly, I found the symptoms of being 'not normal' highly distressing and exhausting. My mother would often ask why I couldn't just be normal, or be like everyone else, or be like the other girls...so often when I was dressed in super baggy clothes because they were comfy, she would point out to me how pretty another girl of my age was, and I would sting. I have been called a freak by her before, so yes, I have often wished I were 'normal' or at least could pass for normal.


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21 Mar 2007, 12:02 pm

Of course i would love to be normal. To enjoy being the soul of the party..To be able to talk to girls without fear. People would not get so mad at me when i am mute and don´t seem to show any feelings (including a girl i love). I wouldn´t flap my hands or roll my hair with my fingers constantly. There are a lot of situations.

And of course i wouldn´t miss being an aspie, cause i wouldn´t know how it feels (and we certaninly know how it feels being normal, or at least have an idea of what it is like).