What is confidence and how can it be pulled off?
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Everyone I'd like to start this posting by reiterating what I wrote on a journal elsewhere http://www.psychforums.com/online-journ ... 9-370.html to sedgway into things.
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I've realized some things like how a lot of my issues stem from a lack of self-affirmation more particularly a lack of self-confidence. For a long time, I've found it unneccesary and have used information, knowledge and philosophy* as a kind of "armor" in a way, instead of self-confidence. "After all,who needs self-confidence and the shaking it can get when you have the verity and/or consistency of facts and perception(s)?", my thinking goes.
*by extension, a thing which comes with the kind of deep emotionally charged thinking I can habitually do.
The last year-ish I've been steadily learning about what negation and emptiness really means though but have only recently recognized "self-affirmation" and the qualities related to it. For me at least, self-confidence might do me better prior to self-acceptance since with the phrase self-acceptance my mind goes "self-accept?,self-accept what?,what's there to accept?,in my myself?,..but the self is an illusion...[x,y,z etc]". Self-confidence is a primer for self-affirmation and will help me develop a sense of not being "groundless" and bewildered at what relevance I hold or factors hold.
*by extension, a thing which comes with the kind of deep emotionally charged thinking I can habitually do.
The last year-ish I've been steadily learning about what negation and emptiness really means though but have only recently recognized "self-affirmation" and the qualities related to it. For me at least, self-confidence might do me better prior to self-acceptance since with the phrase self-acceptance my mind goes "self-accept?,self-accept what?,what's there to accept?,in my myself?,..but the self is an illusion...[x,y,z etc]". Self-confidence is a primer for self-affirmation and will help me develop a sense of not being "groundless" and bewildered at what relevance I hold or factors hold.
For example right now as counterproductive as it might be, I would like to be confident enough to do my homework but I think that maybe by talking about this important topic I'm procrastating from taking action which I should take but I'm not very confident once I do enter "the sphere of action".
I'm no expert on confidence, either academically or in practice, but my intuition says that confidence lives in the realm of emotions and social skills, not in the arenas of logic and philosophy.
I know, that sucks for those on the spectrum, but it doesn't mean confidence is impossible - just harder. Figure out how to be confident in your head (I find being knowledgeable and being right, helps ); and watch confident people, to figure out how to appropriately express your confidence.
Good luck!
sidetrack wrote:
For example right now as counterproductive as it might be, I would like to be confident enough to do my homework but I think that maybe by talking about this important topic I'm procrastating from taking action which I should take but I'm not very confident once I do enter "the sphere of action".
Stop procrastinating!

Thinking about the homework is almost certainly more stressful than simply doing it.