Varying levels of intelligence and moods=acceptance ?

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Is noticing how I keep throwing tantrums and stuff a sign of acceptance of my disability? Because I just don't get why I keep doing these things ,it pisses me off . I know better than this and I just don't get it.

It is awareness of one trait.

Acceptance is understanding most if not all that comes with the condition is who you are both the good and bad parts. Acceptance does not mean not trying to add skills or lessening defects associated with the condition.

Well, you can work on it if you are motivated. For example: When I was 16, I had nearly daily meltdowns. I hated it. I check what causes the meltdowns. I worked on being more patient and worked on making the meltdowns occur less often. Nowadays I am at one or two a month (back when I had a job it was rather once or twice per work week). And the meltdowns last less than a minute. I will just scream and be angry and whiny, but within a minute it stops and I am back at being a cheery person.

No, that's not how I would define acceptance.

Acceptance can happen without knowledge for one.

No, it just means not adding any sort of value attachment to the problems you do have, but then somehow be able to change what does not seem broken.

I feel like I fundamentally do not understand how one can accept and also change.

Sounds more like acknowledgement and awareness rather than acceptance. Good first step. I've found the best way to help limit the frequency and intensity of such occurrences is to regularly remind myself that causing pain in others is way worse than whatever pain I'm feeling that makes me want to act out.

It is in this case used for the Autism as a whole and believing being Autistic does not make you a broken or defective person. It does not preclude improving things co-morbid to autism or possibly adding skills to use for strategic reasons ie to "pass". Adding to what is there does not automatically mean rejecting what is already there

to me, acceptance means this: finding and feeling peace that aspect of yourself that you do not like. although that aspect of yourself may still happen, like tantrums for example, it will not cause you pain or trouble you when you think about it during the times you are not having tantrums.

if I may say so, that's a damn good definition of acceptance.