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02 Jun 2015, 9:44 pm

Classmates let Aspie 5th grader win race

This a hell of a lot better then the bullying I got in 5th grade, but I have concerns about this. It would have been better if the classmates just tried tried to ease his anxiety or otherwise gave him verbal support. This gives a message that the only way for an Autistic to win a race is if the other contestants intentionally lose.


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02 Jun 2015, 10:02 pm

I think this is not the right thing to do.


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03 Jun 2015, 12:55 am

Well, they're 10 years old, it's all they could really think of to do. It definitely sounded well intended though, not them manipulating him and making him even more nervous. Winning that race meant more to him than any of the others so it doesn't seem like any harm is done.



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03 Jun 2015, 2:20 am

I was skeptical at first when I saw the title but it seemed to worked out find and he seemed aware what they did because he mentioned they let him win.


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03 Jun 2015, 11:51 am

Well, I think I know what you mean, ASPartOfMe----I had mixed emotions about it, until I got to the end of the article, and the kid they let win, said: "Thanks to everybody who helped me win."; so, that seems like he might've known they let him win, and he was grateful that they gave him just that one time, to feel like a winner. I'm thinking that's okay.....









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03 Jun 2015, 2:45 pm

When I was a kid, if someone had let me win, I'd have been WAY more disappointed than if I had tried hard and lost fairly.


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03 Jun 2015, 2:46 pm

I think I'd just be embarrassed, I've always hated being the center of attention. But he liked it which is good.



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03 Jun 2015, 2:49 pm

I forgot to mention that is much better than how it could have gone. How about running two races? Let him win the first one, and in the second, everybody does their best.


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03 Jun 2015, 3:25 pm

It sounds like the kids had good intentions, and I do know how winning races or games means a lot to kids. So, yeh, I don't have much against it. They're only kids after all.


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03 Jun 2015, 3:29 pm

I hope these kids could help the autistic kid win fair and square.

They could allow the autistic kid to play and practice with them so he could get better at the sport.

If he does practice, and eventually wins, it's much better than having people "let him win."



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03 Jun 2015, 3:46 pm

I don't think so, and had it been me, I would have been pissed. As with most AS/HFA people, I value and need honesty. I hate anything being given to me. It honestly makes me feel stupid and lowly.