Am I wrong for feeling this way?

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As a child, it turns out I was quite gifted, only I didn't know it. I just thought all the things I wanted to learn were completely normal despite being far beyond my peers. Yes, I was that socially oblivious. My IQ was tested repeatedly, but I never remember hearing about the results. I grew up thinking I was stupid.

All my life it's been about what's wrong with me, never what was right. I got to (and still get to) experience the label of being disabled...but I never got to experience the actual label of being gifted, despite being that intelligent. I'm still waiting.

And I don't think I'm Gifted any longer.

I feel as if I was robbed, and I'm so angry and hopeless and bitter.

Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Not at all. You should accept all feelings there really is no right and wrong way you 'should' feel.

You must be well mad that people aren't recognising the good things you can do.

But then again what use is recognition really?

It's not about where you are at some point of time, because life is fleeting. Life moves in ebbs and flows and you need to move with it. It's all about moving your life forward and feeling sorry for yourself might win a little bit of sympathy from a few people, but otherwise won't achieve anything.

When I was in primary school I was chess champion of the school at the age of eight. I would point out mistakes on the blackboard by the Maths teacher. I was writing satirical poetry.

In high school I couldn't write an English essay and froze in front of the class when I tried to debate. I was told by all the teachers I was stupid and had no friends.

Science was my saviour later in school and I was fortunate to map out a career from it.

I wouldn't say I'm intelligent. Far from it. I think IQ is a misnomer. We all have gifts. Aspies and NT's alike. We just have to make the most of the gifts that God gave us and never stop learning from life till the day we die.

I do agree on what he said. In my perspective, all of us are "Beautiful Mysteries". and, "My strength is made perfect in weakness "

After all, it isn't all about who's superior or inferior. One day, it is indeed sad to say and think that the world might turn into a wasteland, our planet is little by little being destroyed, the new generation are getting prolific with information. Yet we fail to realize that we'll need one another.


Yes, there is a greater chance that as we advance, the approaching generations are getting smarter than the past generations. But out of our knowledge, that little by little we are also getting separated from one another, or be one with a goal to question the existence of God and even our own.

Maybe, it isn't just about what defines us, it isn't just about high regard from other people, maybe something far deeply in our hearts, away from the notions of what we think or they think, we are.

But sure is, the world needs you - The world needs us and our souls are here for a purpose.

I grew up thinking I was stupid, because my brother and mother are both genuine geniuses. It always perplexed me if someone insulted me for being a "smarty pants." I thought I was really stupid for not being able to read until I was 6. And because of growing up in my brother's shadow, watching him get showered with praise for being so smart, for graduating high school at 13, I still have a hard time believing I'm smart. Even though I graduated at 17 and could have graduated earlier if I had applied myself. Even though I was always at the top of my classes in college. I just cannot believe in myself. I'm just me, the girl who was never as good as her brother.

I think it's ok to be upset, but it's what we do with those feelings that really matter. We can be bitter and let it bring us down, or we can learn about what we are now and see where we can go with what we have and make the best of it. Does that make sense?

It makes sense. I just want to (re)claim that part of myself and move forward.