Girl I like doesn't want to chat/has held a grudge for AGES!

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We used to be best friends but one day I got angry because of personal stuff and got mad at her. Since then she didn't want to talk to me ever again. I stopped talking to her for months and just tried chatting tonight and:

she said 'what'.
I said 'I just want to chat'.
She said 'no, go away and stay gone'.
I apologised and said I do actually like her still and I was angry because of my own issues but she doesn't want to chat at all.

What can I do?!

She wanted me to leave so I gave her time.

It became too much for me to be close to someone that much though and I felt confused so I said. 'You ain't real don't talk to me'. I didn't mean that though but I don't know what to do when things are like that.

We didn't even chat in person only online and by text though I used to know her in person. We were best friends at school but we live far away now.

Give up on her. You deserve better. There are plenty of other people out there who will treat you right. All you have to do is find them.

Seems like the same thing happens always. I could be friends with someone for years and one day I feel overwhelmed by stuff and then they don't want to know me. It's like they forget all the years that were good and just think of that one bad moment.

this has happened to me so many times. i'm not even talking about love interests but just friendships, but the advice is the same. as much as you want to talk to her, just leave her be. i know it's REALLY difficult, but forgive her for holding a grudge (so that you don't end up holding one against her), and do your best to move on. in time, you will get over her. trust me. i've had about 10 people in my life "cut me off" and i have, in all cases, either moved on, or the people have come around. one time this girl i know ignored me for a year because i offended her. people are weird sometimes i've found out.

The "you aren't real stop talking to me" says it all. If she was Aspie she would take you literally when you said "don't talk to me". Then not talking for months. Does she even know you're Aspie? If you want it to work, you need a face to face meeting and explain what happened and apologize.

I didn't really mean that though. Some things I can't understand well and I say things like that but once in all the time we'd known each other.

She doesn't know I'm aspie because I've only been diagnosed a few months. Meeting face to face would be impossible.

It's because of things like this that I don't try and make real life friends anymore.
Aquaintances only.

Sometimes if someone is too close to me me i think that is impossible; they must have an ulterior motive. I don't trust people easily, so when things are overwhelming I must be ready in case there is a problem. If I wasn't that way then how would I survive?

Often I find people don't think like me at all and I'm always left wondering who to trust. Don't ever get close to anyone without reason, it is worthless.

Some people have to do that. Extremely counter-productive way of living.

I mean, so... irrational. Why hurt yourself as well by holding the grudge?

Then again, I am using MY logic. Hence I don't/can't hold grudges. Sometimes, the person who done you harm have already forgotten it...

But honestly, it may be a good time to, as that irritating song goes: "Let it go". I know it's... difficult. Painful. So many "what ifs" and "maybes".

I myself is preparing for this eventuality. Also with a girl I... have intense feelings for. She lets me give her friendly hugs, jokes with me, but I know we are not on the same page.

Sometimes the best thing to do for people you truly care for is to let them go...

I don't understand how people are such hypocrites yet they don't recognise that.

Now you mentioned it, close relationships almost sounds like Mutually Assured Destruction (lol).

Anyways, I think I may have had a glimpse of why people go into relationships.

I have a close friend, probably what people call Platonic. We... look out for each other. It doesn't mean we hang out all the effing time. We tolerate, accept each other. Heck, sometimes I think I'm the one still unable to embrace my condition.

There are days when paranoia sets in: how easy for us to tear each other apart as we had shared secrets.

Maybe it's the mutual trust, the... belief that someone will be around even at your darkest moments. Someone just willing to listen to you rant unconditionally (NTs DO rant).

Just hang in there, mate. There are 7 billion of us. Granted, most of us are petty, narcissistic simpletons, but
I think it doesn't really have to be a bond mate. Just a person who would understand you...

Sorry guys that I'm ranting so much. I'm not even on the correct forum but i was so upset.
I know everything is okay now. Everything is temporary. People and situations are supposed to change.

Thank you d0gbert. Thank you guys for not being pure mean lol.