So I have a weird anxiety...

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So me and my grandfather went to see a movie and then when we got back my other family members asked about it. Like "what was it about" and stuff like that. And for some reason whenever this happens with books, movies, etc and the other person is asking me about something only I know about and I don't really find it interesting to talk about I feel anxiety. I can't pinpoint why I feel anxiety in those situations it just happens. I don't feel like it's that I am worried they will make fun of me or something I really have no idea why I am anxious. But if it's something I really want to talk with people about ex: recently I have been learning about aspergers cause I think I might have it so I want to talk with people about it even if there not familiar with it. Though I often feel anxiety trying to bring something I want to talk about up (Thats a weird anxiety too) I can enjoy talking to people about stuff only I really know about that well. It's just when I really don't want to talk about it I feel anxiety and don't know why.
Also I feel weird expressing certain emotions with people. Or being sentimental like sometimes. Like it was my grandmas birthday and my mom told me to call her and I for some reason felt anxiety because I had to call and wish my grandma happy birthday. I have no idea why that made me anxious. It's not that I hate my grandma or something and I did legitimately hope she had a good birthday. But for some reason wishing her one gave me anxiety.

So does anyone have a logical explanation for these anxiety's? Is it because of aspergers or just general social anxiety? I just think it's weird cause I don't know why I am anxious in those situations.

As a kid I felt like this. I think it was due to anxiety that everyone will pay attention to me because I'm talking or feeling judged. Is it like that for you?

I can certainly relate to pretty much everything you've said.

I have social anxiety and possible ASD, so perhaps it is a combination of both. From an AS perspective, maybe having to give a verbal summary of something you're not interested in can be anxiety-inducing because you simply don't know what to say. Consequently, you might think that not knowing what to say will look foolish, therefore giving a bad impression to others (something the socially anxious person fears). So they might both play their part.

I experience a similar anxiety when people ask me about a place I've been to, or food for example. Say I went someplace new to eat with a friend, and my family were to ask me about it later. I may have really enjoyed the food but I would scared to rave about it in case my family were to try it one day and say how bad it was. I would probably give a general answer that suggested the food was 'pretty good'. But then I'm also worried that they will think it's amazing, then say something to me like; 'I can't believe you only thought this was average!' (when I actually did find it amazing). I guess that's why it's important to learn to form your own opinions on things and not be afraid to express them freely. I'm still learning!

Bringing up topics is uncomfortable for me too. Do you find it's worse when it's to do with a topic you're currently obsessed with? If you're anything like me, I keep most of my obsessions quite private. Sometimes though, I feel compelled to discuss them with people because I just want to talk about them, but then I also feel 'protective' of my interests and don't want others to think badly of them. It's like I'm exposing a part of me. Do you get that too?

As for feeling weird expressing certain emotions, I experience that too. I'm not a person who's very sentimental in most situations, so when it's expected of me it can feel forced. I dislike phone calls. It's one reason I don't like my birthday very much because I get phone calls just for me and I also feel awkward ringing people to thank them for my gifts. Of course, I am genuinely grateful but the call is just uncomfortable!

So yeah, I don't think you're alone! I'd reckon that both AS and SA have something to do with it.

I and many other aspies, I think, often have difficulty telling stories and summarizing events. One of the tests they sometimes perform in a diagnostic interview for younger children is a story-card test, where the kid has to connect a couple of images, draw conclusions, and build a tale.

Perhaps this is creating additional stress?